What should I do with my mother?

Question

I have a boyfriend (5 years ago) We love each other.... soon we are going to get married and live in another country. My mother is so pissed out with me, because she saids we have not told her everything... she want's detalis. It's my life.... what should I do to get her of my back?
Some details... I am an only child.

Answer 1

tell her, "with all due respect mom,,, it's my life and i'll do what i damn well please'.

Answer 2

She's not pissed because you're getting married! That's every mother's dream for their daughter.She's not that concerned about the details.She is hurting inside! She has too much pride to let it show.....Your mother went through the birthing pains to bring you into this world.Your Mother held you when you were scared.picked you up when you fell down.She was there when you were successful,she was there to when your first crush broke your heart. There is no way for you to really realize all that your mother is to you until the day you give birth to your own child.Then the realization hits you like someone opened a flood gate! Show her the respect she deserves, give her the assurance she needs that you'll only be a phone call away! Take a day or so of some serious thought,on how you will feel inside when one day she isn't here anymore.Then tell her how very much you love her and how important she is in your life! Things will go much smoother! Than if she feels you are pushing her away! Trust me it is very hard to let go of your child! It's even harder to let go of your Mom knowing it's the last time you will ever hug her,touch her or see her.

Answer 3

Your mother is having a hard time letting you go. She is afraid she is losing you. Try letting her in a little bit. She doesn't have to know everything. Try to make her feel involved in your life. Explain to her how you feel. She may surprise you and really listen to what you have to say. It's hard for a mother to let her children go. Let her know how much you love her and will always love her. Let her know that even though you are moving to another country that doesn't mean she will never see you again. Let her know she can come visit and that you will visit her. Remind her that you will hopefully be giving her grandchildren that she can enjoy. Show her a little love and you will get a whole lot back.

Answer 4

You sure she's not kin to my mom? I'm 40 years old, widowed, single parent of an Autstic child, live away from mom, and I still get THE talk.

When I was 36, I started redating after quite sometime after my husband passed on. I was stupid enough to tell her that we were planning a trip. She literally said she "forbid" me to go. Talk about trouble undoing the apron strings.

My mom's a control freak. It took many times of telling her to back off, for her to finally get a clue. I've even had to tell her I couldn't tell her anything about my life due to the fact she freaks out so easily. I am constantly getting the lecture, as if I were 5 years old.

You just have to stand your ground and let her know to ease up.

Answer 5

I understand where you are coming from, but try and see her side, you more than likely all she has, you being an only child. My Mum was devastated when I moved away from home, but she didn't tell me, and when I married, she felt she had lost part of her forever, she wants me to have a happy life, but finds it hard to let go of her little girl. Try and talk to her about your plans and dreams for your future.

Answer 6

My mother got a lot easier to handle when she finally realized that if she didn't lay off I was gonna be gone FOR GOOD. Yank her damn chain. She will shut up and be a bit more meek if you confirm her worst fears. Then she will walk on eggshells and treat you a bit more normally like my mom does. We finally get along better now, but she's scared of pissing me off now, and she should be.
Don't put up with control freak behavior from ANYONE.

Answer 7

??????????its your call. think about it you are the only child your mother is not ready for you to leave the nest yet....she is just worried that she may lose you.... maybe she doesnt trust this boyfriend of yours... look i know mothers are not always right but sometime you have to listen to them they know whats best.. you see i HAD an aunt that THOUGHT she was so in love with this man her mother tried to get her not to move and just find a place nice for herself for a while then think about what she wants to do... well guess what she didnt listen she moved off with that man and a few years later as she was getting out the shower that bastard shot and killed her butt naked. so its inportant that you listen to her it may be for your own good

Answer 8

The only sensible thing to do is to register her at an elderly home where she can find all the love and care she needs. If she disagrees then she can live by herself.

Answer 9

Include her in what you are comfortable including her in. Keep living your own life and if she wants to be a part of it she'll be happy with what she's included in. If not, that's not your problem. Don't let her make her problem yours. Be happy! I'm a mom and I intend to let my kids live their own lives and share with me what they will. It's rude and invasive to expect a daily agenda of anyone's life.

Answer 10

Hi! I think that you have to explain to your mother everything, i mean; the feelings that are making you happy, our mothers always want to know what happen cause they are our best friends! Think about it!

Answer 11

how old are you..start living your life.and when she realizes you mean it.and will not tell her everything..she will get over it..tell her you have boundaries. and if she would like to stay active in your life.she needs to be and act like a mother,not your best friend........good luck