Lonely & Depressed thats what my life is about. 4 weeks ago I met a wonderful compasionate caring and loving man. There's only one obstacle ... he is married, I respect that fact and enjoy every minute with him, not expecting anything lasting, I know our relationship will eventually come to an end and I accept it, is there anything wrong with that?
2006-08-07 10:40:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There is nothing wrong with being 30. There is nothing wrong with you accepting that your relationship will come to an end. Acceptance is one of the most valuable things we can learn. You may feel lonely and depressed and that is why you chose a married man to spend time with. He may be compassionate, caring and a loving man. But he is not being compassionate, caring and loving to his wife. Many people have different reasons why they cheat on their spouses but I always thought if he could do that to his wife could he do that to the person he might leave his wife for. I know you posted that you were lonely and depressed but hopefully those feelings will lift and you will see that you deserve a man all your own and you can have that even at thirty.
2006-08-07 12:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by mia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with being lonely and depressed; however, being an accomplice to a cheating spouse isn't doing anyone any favors. There's plenty of healthy ways to move on. Find a new hobbie, take a class at the local college.
Married people who cheat on their spouses clearly have trust and commitment issues not to mention some communication issues. Do you really want to be a part of someone elses problem?
What are you going to do when he doesn't leave his wife or blames you for making him leave his wife?
If you need company, there are a million people out there who can give you a true friendship without cheating on their spouses.
I'm not sure if I've ever been cheated on. I know I've cheated in the past. Either way, it never works. You might as well get out of that situation as fast as possible before you become comfortable with the lie.
Good Luck. You probably deserve someone better.
2006-08-07 17:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! His commitment is not just with his body, but with his soul. By being with this person in a flirty or romantic way, even if it is not sexual, he is going against his vows. You are an accomplice in that and just as guilty for not respecting a marriage. It sounds to me like you are looking for someone to fill a void in your life. Please try to make yourself more of a whole person before looking for someone else to fix you. I say this for your own sake. I know it's hard and lonely, but you will be so much happier in the end.
2006-08-07 17:47:30 · answer #3 · answered by Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with being 30. However, it is very wrong to be happy at someone elses expense.(in this case, that man's family). You on the other hand can do better than a married man and you keep telling yourself that. You will find someone who will make you happier than you have ever been...or he might just find you!
2006-08-07 17:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by WORLD CLASS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, there is nothing wrong with being 30. Second there IS something wrong with seeing a married man. Even if you are lonely, that is someone else's husband. That's called "home wrecking."
2006-08-07 17:46:05 · answer #5 · answered by angib18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES THERE IS ! you will not only cause each other heart ache when it ends but 90% end with the wife finding out and then you have screwed up a marraige and the lives of the children too.
Way to go !!!
2006-08-07 19:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why ask a question you already know the answer to...?
He's having fun and you will end up with nothing. While you are fooling around with him, your Mr. Right could be out there waiting for you.
2006-08-07 17:49:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello dear!
You sound dynamic an sincere!
You can identify a single and proceed into a great relation!
Regarding 30s, it's great! 30s means maturity and youth combined!
2006-08-10 07:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by SuSaiQi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋