We are together 11 years and he does everything you can think of to turn me on - I end up faking of course just for him to leave me alone.... He is lying all the time now - why do men think their women are stupid and can't see through a bold face lie...I used to pretend it didn't matter but now he is getting bolder and bolder - staying out till 3am etc - weird phone calls - i thought "go ahead and have your affair, it doesn't matter but he still wants my body too - why won't he just leave me alone? Is this what you call have your cake and eat it too. I cheated once about a year and half ago and it did not help any - he did not find out but I did not do it again and its not because I can't.... I consider myself really really pretty - I am approached by men everyday - why can't I figure this out?
2006-08-07 10:21:33 · 9 answers · asked by arlene j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have 3 kids - one of the main reasons I am still there - i know I don't love him anymore but besides that the complication is that we are ok in every other aspect except sex.
2006-08-07 11:38:55 · update #1
all the sex thoughts are being clouded by the thoughts of anger and disgust. you can't even look at him the same way either. if you don't feel it in your heart anymore than you won't feel it in your pants either. your emotions have to be there with you all the time.
2006-08-07 10:30:35 · answer #1 · answered by oaklandolee 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why are you still in the marriage? It sounds like a terrible situation to try and live with. You need to consider ending the marriage for your own sake.
If you are certain he is cheating on you, do not have unprotected sex! Who knows where that thing has been? Who knows what diseases he could give you?
2006-08-07 17:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know if you cheated on him is his fault for not pleasuring you or being open with you, and since hes cheating he wont even ever notice you have or had an affair, you need to confront him,on his behavior go to mariage therapy and if he keeps giving you the same behavior get out of the marriage it is horible to have a high sex drive and not be pleased, its frustrating, and the thing is that if you keep in the dark of your situation the only one affected will be you. he needs to give it all to you and not anybody else. talk with him.
2006-08-07 18:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by Jackeline G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you married? Normally, I favor keeping marriages going, but this isn't marriage, it's keeping a dead horse laying in the living room. The longer you keep this farce going, the worse that horse is going to smell. I do suggest that IF you are going to have sex with your husband, you INSIST on condoms. For some reason, you are continuing this charade, but having it cost you your life is carrying it a bit too far.
2006-08-07 18:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... I suspect your idea of highly sexual and his are different... If there are not kids involved I would hazard a guess y'all are through and just haven't admitted it yet.
If you desire to truley resolve this you both have to sit down and talk it out.
Keep in mind - he isn't going to seem ready to discuss things when you are... so say your piece... then wait a few days for him to process...
2006-08-07 17:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by shredderb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to salvage the relationship you need to confront him about cheating and let him know about your affair. If the relationship isn't worth saving then you should leave.
2006-08-07 17:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by jason s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grilfriend... you need a good boy-toy. And if he's lying to you I'd cut him off completely.
2006-08-07 17:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just get divorce papers. what he's doing is unfair to you...
2006-08-07 17:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM THE TRUTH ABOUT YOU!!! OR...DIVORCE.
2006-08-07 17:29:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋