he is the love of my life but he told me he didn't want to be with me what can i do to win his heart back
2006-08-07 09:52:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You could sit him down and have a calm conversation with him and ask him why he feels this way.
Maybe it is something that can be fixed in the relationship and maybe it isn't.
Do NOT yell, accuse, or pass judgment while having this conversation that will only push him further away.
2006-08-14 17:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not make somebody love you or stay with you but if you really want to try maybe you could get a sitter for the kids and go out with him. Do somethings with him that you used to do before you had the kids that he really enjoyed. It could be that he is just not feeling like you give him the same attention that you used to since the kids arrived so my guess would be try some alone time.
2006-08-15 10:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lelia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey when it's over it's over never want someone that does not want you. 4 kids and all it's just not worth it he's done and there's no turning back. i know it hurts but he decide to move on and trust me he's already on a roll to leave you with 4 kids means that he's tired and wants out, it's not you it's him and no matter what you do you can't win him back just let him go and give him nothing, i mean rally give him his space and see what happen, maybe you have changed as far as looks sometimes as mothers & wives we get to comfortable and stop looking and being attractive to our husbands i'm sure the kids take up all your time but sometimes our man are like the kids they need there time to sorry but let matters be think about you and the kids. he's just not into you anymore let it go and please for the kids dont make it worst by begging him to stay or crying i know it hurts but it will be easier with out the fighting your kids are watching
2006-08-15 08:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty tough to win a heart back if it doesn't want to be won back. You need to first and foremost, protect the kids and that means getting enough support out of him to properly care for them. IF you could find a very good therapist who could burrow down through all the baggage he (and you carry) it might be possible to stay together. Here's a web site: http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/ppc/prof_search.php?iorb=4764
Give it a shot.
2006-08-07 10:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear that but there really is nothing you can do except move on. It will be hard but in the long run it is the right thing to do. He will only be back when it benefits him. So be smart, change the locks to the house but most important to your HEART. Good luck.
2006-08-15 10:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need to sit down and talk about this is he not thinking about the children. you both been together 10 years he wants tto throw that away how crazy. he made a commit to marrying you. tell him to think about that. Mostly he justed wasted 10 years of your life being with him. how can he feel that way
2006-08-12 14:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but if He is feeling this way after 10 years and 4 children then I don't know what you can do to convince him . Good Luck
2006-08-07 10:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by Janis G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i feel thats bull becsuse he engage in something that was very big and meanfulk to you both and marriage is a big thing and you done gave birth to all of his kids and didnt give them abortion or anyhing. whta kind of man he is? an unnaprreciative one?tell him that you love him and you cant do it on your own and that you will let him take the kids and you wont be part of his life and that might force him to wanna stay. if he wants to leave... he also has to leave with 4 little hunggry mouths.
2006-08-07 10:03:17 · answer #8 · answered by adamsgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. If you seem clingy and needy they treat you like s***. It's gonna hurt like hell but you have to move on and he'll come crawl in back with his tail between his legs they all do. Find something to take your mind off of his lack of loyalty. You have something with him for life. Kids. Take them 4 blessings and hit his butt hard for child support and find you someone who will commit to you for life.
2006-08-14 21:40:26 · answer #9 · answered by cecilia g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only offer him to councel with you and tell him how you fell about him. Find out what is wrong? But if he doesnt love u moveon.
2006-08-15 08:11:54 · answer #10 · answered by lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋