My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years. He just got stationed in Hawaii for 2 years. I am still in school so there is no way that I can move there yet. I want to be with him but know that this is going to be really hard. Does anyone have any tips on how to keep the relationship going when there is 5,000 miles in between you?
2006-08-07 09:39:08 · 31 answers · asked by Caitlin B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't know how to help you. I know long distance is hard in any relationship weather it is a 2 hour commute or a 2 day. I am sure if you both discuss the issue you will be able to work it out.
2006-08-07 09:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by midesweet 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, keep open communication, because basically that's all you have right now. It's hard, I know it. Did that with my man for 2 1/2 years. But, it was worth it in the end. The most you can do is be strong for your man. Call and email him...or find a time when you both can get on Instant Messanger. Basically, where there's a will, there's a way. And if you both truly love each other, then 5,000 miles isn't going to keep your hearts apart. Be strong!
2006-08-07 09:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by Monique Andrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup!
1. Call, text all the time. Whenever you're thinking about him, send a text message if you can't call. Make sure you have a phone plan with cheap, unlimited texting/calling.
2. Send him lots of pictures. Talk by webcam if you can or are into that.
3. Is there any way you can visit him periodically? Like every few months? Save up for a hotel and you both can stay there. It'll be like you're on vacation..
4. Work on your appearance, even though I know nothing about how you look work out or focus on making yourself more presentable. That's what I did and he was shocked when he saw me next! Whatever you do, don't become out of shape just because your boy lives far away.. it's REALLY tempting.
5. Write cute letters. Use interesting envelopes and stationery. Include pictures. Letters are still better than e-mail every day.
Hope this helps, good luck!
2006-08-07 09:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The question is: Do you love your boyfriend enough to stay with him even though there will be 5,000 miles between the two of you?
If you love him and he loves you, then you should not doubt your relationship. It's hard to keep a long distance relationship, a lot harder than keeping a normal one, and it takes a lot of courage, persistence and faith to keep that love and trust between the two of you, but in the end, it will all be worth it, trust me.
You two just have to keep on fighting for your love. Trust your heart... if your heart loves him, then that's the right thing, to be with him.
2006-08-07 09:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by miraob86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before my husband and I got married, we spent 4 years in a long distance relationship (I was at college and he went to the Navy 2500 miles away). Anyway, I can't tell you that it was easy, but I can tell you it was worth it. Trust is definitely important. Phone calls, letters and gift packages are important too. Sometimes when people are close (distance wise), they don't always talk as in depth as you do when you are writing a letter. It might be a great way to really learn more about each other.
2006-08-07 09:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can work, it depends on how much energy you put into it. My boyfriend lives over 3,000 miles away from me and we make it work. We visit several times out of the year and we call and email each other daily. We are getting married this fall and I will be moving there to live. If you love each other and you both understand that you just can't be together right now and you're willing to invest the time and the energy, it can and will work. Best of luck to you both.
2006-08-07 10:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by Peace2All 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I started out 2000 miles apart, and we stayed strong. I'm not sure how we did it, other then complete trust and honesty in each other, and when one of us got depressed about missing the other, we started talking about our future plans. We talked literally every single day on the phone. It helps to have unlimited long distance. Just be strong, and don't hang around friends that will discourage your relationship. Keep motivating people around that love you enough to remind you that when you are finally together it will seem like the time just flew by. Stay strong.
2006-08-07 09:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by mcnees79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooo my one long distance relationship didn't work. But that doesn't mean that they can't work. Be really honest with each other. Even if it might hurt a little bit. Tell him that honesty is the only way this relationship will work. It's so much stress.... good luck.
2006-08-07 09:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by Queen of Kings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a few long distance relationships, the best tip is honesty and keeping in touch its very easy to pull away emotionally and physically being so far away
2006-08-07 09:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by lauree_anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
though miles may lay between you, you`re never far apart, for love doesnt count the miles, its measured by the heart
Distance between two hearts is not an obstacle rather a great reminder of just how strong true love can be
2006-08-07 09:55:12 · answer #10 · answered by Your best friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋