I am 38 years old. I have boy/ girl twins from my first marriage and they are 14 years old and starting high school in 2 weeks. I was remarried Aug 31, 2004 and am now very happily married. I always wanted to be a mom and have lots of kids. My twins were partially raised by my parents since I was a single mom fromt he time they were 4 and trying to hold a full time job and save my house that I almost lost in my bad divorce. I am now in a beautiful home, a good marriage and I am pregnant and due 2/2/07. My family isn't happy. My dad says I am crazy for having another baby at my age ( he even swore at me and called me all kinds of names and wont discuss it anymore) my closest aged sister said she doensn't understand why we did this and my other sisters won't talk to me. Isn't your family suppsed to be happy for you during this kind of stuff? My friends have been great and my doctor said everything is going fine and he dosent see any problems......
2006-08-07 09:30:37 · 5 answers · asked by jachooz 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
the twins are fine with the baby comng and are actualy excited.....
2006-08-07 09:47:34 · update #1
I am sorry your family is acting like this. Hopefully your twins aren't reacting this way. Ultimately, it comes down to you and your husband and your twins are going to be affected the most and you need their support more then anything else. If your husband and children are happy for you then give everyone else some space. Tell them your happy about this baby and when they can be happy for you then they can call you. Give them time they should come around. If your teens are having issues with the pregnancy then you need to have a chat with them. Tell them that your love for them will not diminish because of this new baby, that you would like their help but that they only have to do what they feel comfortable with and that you don't view them as live in babysitters. Explain all the joys of having a baby in the house and use lots of example of what you enjoyed about their infancy. Make a plan for after the baby comes that on a specific day at least once a month you will find a babysitter and spend some time alone with them. I am praying for you and Congratulations!
2006-08-07 09:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am happy for you. Thirty eight is definately not too old to have a baby. Women used to have lots of kids so by the time they got to their 19th (I know someone who had 19) I'm sure they must have been in their 40's. Your family will probably come around after the shock wears off or at least when you have the baby and they get all gah gah over him or her.
2006-08-07 12:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by Dellajoy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to explain that having a baby with your new husband will make you closer once you have a child with him. My sister did the same thing, she felt there would be a stronger bond once there was a child from the 2 of them....she was right!!!
Good Luck, and maybe give them a chance to understand YOUR point of view....if not, TOO bad that they won't be a major influence on the child's life.
2006-08-07 09:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by Bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds to me like your family needs a swift kick in the "you know what". It sounds to me like you picked a perfect time to have another baby and it also sounds like you deserve all the happiness you get..I would tell your family if they aren't going to be supportive than they aren't a welecome part of your life.
2006-08-07 10:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by ashez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats on your pregnancy family will never understand anything don't stress over them just be happy with your new husband and your twins they are the only ones who matter good luck
2006-08-07 09:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋