how do i tell my friends i lied about being preagnt by my band teacher?

Answer 1

Just speak from your heart. Write down what you want to say on paper first, so you'll have an idea of exactly what yo want to say and you will not struggle with the words. Give them a sincere apology for lying. If necessary, practice out loud in the mirror. Also, acknowledge how wrong you were to lie to them, and tell them why you felt you had to be dishonest.
If they are real friends, they may not forget, but they will forgive

Answer 2

How do you take a bandage off: Do you work it off slowly or do you just rip it off quickly? If you said the latter then you know how to tell your friends. The only way to do it is to keep it short and honest.

You can lie even more and make the first lie much worse, or you can gather a group of your friends together and break the news, the truth, to them all at once. Then you can stand there and take their criticisms. You also only have to explain yourself once, and if you tell it to a large group of your friends then the rumor mill will have a better chance of getting it right. After that you will have a chance to find out who your true friends are, they are the ones who are still willing to support you.

This is a test of your character, one that you have already damaged. If you can stand there and take whatever they say to you then you will prove that you have a character worth redeeming. If you try to weasel out by emailing them or text messaging them, or just talking with them on the phone, then you are showing even more of a weak character. If you confront your friends, tell them the truth, and physically face them, then you will prove that you are a person worthy of being a friend. Of course you need to apologize for your lie. AFTER you tell the truth. Any apologizes are going to contain excuses. The excuses should come after you tell the truth.

Now you have to handle the other problems, like what to do for the poor band teacher. An accusation like this can end his career. He will never be able to teach again. You will have destroyed this man's life, all to try and make yours a little easier. If you have told this lie to more than one person then the chances of it remaining a secret drops. All people like to gossip, and this is a strong piece of gossip so assume it has already gotten out. That means the facility, and the principle might know. If they don’t then get rid of this lie before they do hear about it.

The fact that you are willing to tell the truth is a good sign. Recently I saw a news report about a woman who lied that she was pregnant. She carried the lie until it finally fell apart all around her and her husband. She was scorned by the community; she had abused their charity and their trust, and became the subject of an unflattering TV show. This is what happens if you let a lie continue. They grow, often out of your control, to the point where they can ruin your life. Some part of you must realize this, and is making you want to tell the truth.

As for the best way to actually speak to them, I suggest that you don’t start with an excuse. Say: “The band teacher is not the father of my child. I am sorry that I lied to you all. I regret it and I am trying to make it right.” Then, if they are still listening, you can give them your excuses, and you had better have some good ones. You also should tell them who the real father is. You don’t have to, but if you want your friends to ever trust you again then you had better come clean, and be ready to do it when you finally end the lie.

Next you can handle the problems of your child. Just remember this; a child who is unwanted, or who has a mother that resents them, will have to carry this for the rest of their life. The worst form of child abuse is to raise such a child in this manner. Most of these children turn into damaged adults. They become criminals, rapists, and even serial killers. When you face this problem then your lie, about the father of your child, will seem a small one.

Answer 3

first learn to spell it's pregnant not preagnt then why would you lie about being pregnant by a teacher you know if that rumor got out your teacher will be in Lot's Of Trouble and so would you

Answer 4

You obviously have a crush on your band teacher, but you had better tell you friends that you fabricated the whole incident before they spread the rumor throughout your entire school. You will be asked to the office and an explanation will be demanded. Not only are you jeapordizing this man's reputation, you're asking for years of torment from your peers. I assume you still have years before you graduate.

Answer 5

Why in the world would you do that??? Don't you know that your lie can ruin your band teachers career? That is not right at all!!! Shame on you! You need to tell your friends the truth and write an apology letter to your teacher for what you have done. Never do that!!

Answer 6

how old are you? why would you tell someone that you had sex with an older person and of all people a teacher! dont you think you made yourself sound slutty? especially if its not true and how long has this lie been going on? it must be a long time because you cant even say "JUST KIDDING!" i dont know this sounds pretty stupid and you sound too desperate for sex or trying to "fit" in. dont try and be like the others if thats what they do at your school. your better than that and learn your studies! gawd!

Answer 7

Tell them before someone calls the police and has the band teacher arrested and thrown in jail, or prison.

Answer 8

Tell them the truth. You did a very bad thing to your band teacher.

Answer 9

why would you tell such a lie like that should really be the question

Answer 10

Read your answers from when you asked this last time.