Girls help me out....?

Question

what are the signs when your boyfriend is no longer interested in u, meaning like.. his attitude, temper, caring.. any comments are welcome but please no rude answers because im already so sad as i am now.. plz help to give some of your advices because im so confused!

thx for the advices so far people! well, he just seems like he is not really into me no more. trust me, i have tried to talk to him so many times but all he does is get mad and start to slam things and getting so upset just because i tried to tell himhow i feel!

Answer 1

I've been married for 11 years and I can tell you that there are millions of ways to tell that he is losing interest. the trick is NOT to confuse loss of interest with loss of novelty. What I mean is that novelty comes with only being with someone for a short time. Butterflies in the stomach everytime the phone rings, or when he walks in the door, etc.! Reality sets in and that fades away to normal eventually. Life comes back into the picture and it may SEEM like there is loss of interest when really there is just paying attention to the things that got shoved to the side before. He is losing interest in you ONLY when he stops including you all together. Starts making decisions that affect you without your input, spends ALL of his time doing other things, is in the same room with you but says nothing to you or does not pay any attention to you at all, even to simply introduce you to others, taht kind of thing. A kind of total abandonment. He is losing interest if he STOPS asking you things about you or your day or trying to find out things about you from you. His attitude will become closed off and distant and probably distracted in the extreme. If he starts to feel that you are too needy or high maintainance, that could distract him into being resentful or angry or completely closed off. Hope this helps. Bottom line, if he is still including yo as a large part of his life and still spending GOOD time with you regularly, then I would not worry too much but you SHOULD talk to him and address your concerns. The two of you may be able to come to some compromises that work for both of you. But do not be too demanding or needy. Remember that you both still have lives outside of one another. Add that into the mix. good luck!

Answer 2

A noticeable change in behaviors and mannerisms is key if someone is no longer interested. If your boyfriend has changed his normal routines, then something may be wrong. For example:
1- if he doesn't greet you like he used to
2-He does not call you as much as before
3-When you talk on the phone with him, conversations are very brief and boring
4-He spends more time with his friends than with you
5-If you have sex, sex is not as passionate as before (quick, he does not seem as into as before, boring)
These are only some of the ways you can tell if your boyfriend is no longer interested.
-Only you know what to do in your situation.
If you are concerned if your boyfriend if he is not interested anymore, do not accuse him but approach the situation gently.
But remember, a change in behaviors and/or mannerisms may be a sign.
***Be positive. Sometimes people who are in long relationship tend to lose its spice. Somtimes things aren't as romantic and such a surprise compared to when things were new and fresh. But there are many of ways to bring that spice back if that is the case.
Good Luck

Answer 3

I remember my first couple serious boyfriends who lost interest in me. They were too chicken to tell me. They would lose their temper quickly, not return calls, avoid me. I was to young to get the hint and I shouldn't have had to. They should have had enough respect for me to tell me to my face that it was over unstead of treating me like that. If I knew what I know now, I would have enough confidence to just hold my head up high and walk away. Either tell them I didn't think it was working out or even just to be a bit coy and ignore them and look like I didn't care or maybe flirt with other guys...you know? Guys can be so stupid and inconciderate. I know it seems horrible now but if a guy isn't making you happy then he isn't worth being with. You deserve to feel cared for and have a guy treat you like a princess. If he can't do that then move on, trust me, even though it doesn't seem like it know there is some one better but as they say you may have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince. Bottom line is if a guy isn't treating you with the respect you crave then he isn't good enough and neither of you will ever be happy. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 4

Well it depends on how long he has been acting that way really and there is nothing wrong with getting advice but he is the one you are in a relationship with so try being straight up with him, and asking him what is going on. There is no point in you wasting your time or him wasting his if you guys are in a dead end relationship. If you are meant to be together in the long run you will be I had a friend who was going through the same thing and now she is engaged and happy Good Luck

Answer 5

Since you are asking the question, I assume you know the answer already. Dont just stand there and take it, ask him and find out. Then move on. The more you remain in this situation, the sadder you will become. Just accept the fact that its over and maybe he wasnt the one for you. Make yourself happy and get out of the relationship before he really does something to hurt you. There are plenty of men out there that will be good to you.

Answer 6

Ok...I will tell you what you need to do. First, allow me to answer your question....yes, he's no longer interested. Second, I'm going to tell you how to deal with it. It's very simple, do to him what he is doing to you. Please stop being the pushy, needy, emotional wreck. There are plenty of other men out there that will bone you and take you out to dinner. No worries. Eventually, if he really truly is done with you, at least you won't be left in his wake when he completely forgets about you. So, give him a dose of his own medicine and take your pride back. What is that famous saying many women often blab......talk to the hand, cause I ain't listenin. That, in short, shall be your new motivation when dealing with your soon to be ex-bf.

Answer 7

when u guys are together see if he pays attention to other girls. if u call and he isn't listening, when he is wit his boys does he talk about other chicks like he used to talk about you if all this is happening maybe he has lost intrest. so you feel a little stronger bout ur self break up with him first if it crushes him he will think about what he did and try to get with you if he moves on than he wasn't worth your time in the first place. girl stay srong.
good luck...

Answer 8

one of the hugest signs of all is how you feel. do u feel sad? lonely? neglected? depressed? that u do all u can for him, and it's not appreciated?? those are indicators that something is missing from the relationship..and it's not from you. it's from him. u need to communicate with him, and talk and figure out what u want from this relationship. are u on the same page? what if he's not ready for a committed relationship? is he getting bored?

find out what u expect from urself, what u expect from him, and what u want for ur future; find out same from his side. then see if u can work on the relationship *together*. if he validates ur feelings, he cares, and he will try to work things out. u should be feeling safe, secure, and loved, and trust him, as he should feel from you. if he is defensive, ignores ur feelings, or treats u badly, then he is not willing to work things out and do what is needed to make u safe and happy.

Answer 9

You should give him space. Males are weird. My soon to be hubby(9-2-06) and I have known each other for 15 years now. At first we just seen each other here and there, we've seen each other go through bad marriages and divorces. We finally REALLY came to realize that we did LOVE EACH OTHER.

Answer 10

The famous Im busy line. Or leave me alone. If you kiss him and he doesnt return the kiss. He doesnt call as much as he use to. Maybe doesnt call at all. Hes always out. Or mentioning another female friend. Or if you call and he said hes going to return the call and never does.