I'm in need of a womans touch not getin it at home what should I do?

Question

I have been with the same woman for 18.5 years we have tried everything one could think of however love has grown cold trust me when I say everything I mean just that what are some suggustions waiting for reponse

Answer 1

I know it may be a long shot for you, but try reading what King Solomon proposed in the Songs of Solomon (I recommend the New Living Translation). The most important thing of all in ANY marriage is communication... don't be embarrased to ask her what she wants from you in order to fulfill her desires, and vice versa. If what is requested cannot be performed, for "good reasons", respect it and substitute for something that can work and replace it. There is nothing wrong with experimenting with your partner, but as long as it is your married partner only! It must work both ways... not just you getting what you want, or the like, but both ways. There are no quick fixes, despite anyone's opinions because you know your wife better than anyone else, and vice versa. Practice it, and you will see the blessings come from the efforts. Despite the results, good or bad, you are commanded to love your wife, and her to love you the same -- you both made the commitment TOGETHER.

Answer 2

That's the problem. When you say the love has gotten cold it is just like saying you are not in love anymore. Figure out if the relationship is worth saving (because if the love was truly there at first it can be rekindled) or move on. It is possible to fall out of love with a person and when that happens it takes alot to get it back. Don't feel bad about it though. And who knows if you decide to break it off then the break may just be the way to jump start the relationship. Sometimes you truly don't miss or realize what you have until it is gone.

Answer 3

If my husband was the kind of man who, after 18.5 years, did not know how to make me feel, "in the mood",then I would probably not be interested either. Think Man! You've had 18.5 years to watch your wife's likes and dislikes,,put the time to good use. Or have you only been thinking of yourself?

Answer 4

I'm thinking that the two of you need to set down and have a heart to heart. Make a promise that you will both listen to the other and don't either one of you get mad at what the other is saying. Then, you two need to decide whether the marriage is worth fighting for. If it is, then, you both need to fight for it.Maybe you are trying to hard to make it happen. Relax and do everything possible to let it happen. If the two of you decide its just not there, then, you probably need to get on with your lives apart.

Answer 5

You are among many with this problem, I say if its working for you , then stay in there. Most likely it won't ever change, so you can keep on trying or get out now . Time is a luxuary we don't have a lot of , don't waste too much.

Answer 6

You say you have tried everything. Have you tried counseling? If not, please give it a try. If you have, then you probably need to start the process of a divorce.

Whatever you decide to do, don't cheat on her. It is disrepectful, hurtfull and humiliating. At least give her the respect due after 19 years, and tell her that you have to move on.

Answer 7

wow..what could cause that..especially after 18.5 years. bring in a third person....go to a sex store together and pick up some new things.... watch each other masturbate... if nothing works...then maybe you two shouldn't be together anymore. i mean is it possible to be in a relationship with someone when there's no SEX??

Answer 8

Reach out an touch your wife. You married her until death do you part. Love her and treat her like a queen!

Answer 9

Break-up

Answer 10

try something the works write down a letter put down your fantasies and tel her to do the same and read it to each other it may work
also try to be honest to yourself and find what u really want fro mur relationship