2006-08-07 09:07:07 · 9 answers · asked by lisa p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
People usually equate sex with love. They think if you are going to have sex with another person than it must relate to love. This emotional attachment makes it difficult to allow that attachment with more than one person, because jealousy usually falls into the equation.
Judeo-Christian values reinforce monogamy. In the western world, if you deviate from monogamy, it is often associated with being against god.
The reason may also be biological -- if you chose a mate, which would contribute his or her DNA to your offspring, you'd want to ensure that he or she would raise the child with you, which would increase your child (and thus your DNA's) success rate. If there is more than one mate involved, his or her time could conceivably be spread amongst offspring who are not yours.
Conversely, biologically speaking, people may want an open relationship so they have greater chance of reproduction. Men get the desire to "spread their seed", for example.
There is also the increased risk of sexually transmitted diseases with more partners. This is not a judgement, meaning that the behavior isn't necessarily "wrong", it's just riskier.
2006-08-10 09:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not close-minded, but isn't a "relationship" meant for 2 people? If you are in a relationship, then you want to feel you are the most important person in the other person's mind. Sharing sex with others is counter productive to building and maintaining a relationship. I would think that an "open relationship" would cause emotional uncertainty, jealousy, possible STD's, unwanted pregnancy, dilemmas among family members.
If you want to have sex with others, don't be in a so-called "committed relationship."
2006-08-07 16:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My guess would be they are either close-minded, in a marriage not strong enough to support it, unwilling to admit that sex is also a recreation sport, were raised with a set of very strict morals (not a bad thing there), or generally are not secure enough in their life to allow their relationship to open up. Not all of these are bad things, some of them are very good reasons for being adverse to the idea of an open relationship. Very few people are in relationships strong enough to survive and flourish by opening it up. I hope this helps.
Just my 2 cents worth
2006-08-07 16:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by capbarrow2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are always going to be people out there that think if you don't have the same feelings and beliefs as them that you are wrong. Doesn't make it right though! I myself don't believe in it either but I don't judge.
2006-08-07 16:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they have closed minds! It's a shame isn't it??? To pretend you have a mind and yet not use all of it or to keep it closed and locked to new ideas or things that make people happy?
Who am I to judge what anyone does??? Who has the "right" to judge me???
I do NOT judge anyone...since only they know what makes them happy...
I expect the same from others...if they can not give it...it is thier loss.
2006-08-07 16:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by some1_on_the_side 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If, by open relationship, you mean having sex with more than one partner, it's wrong because it can lead to sexually transmitted diseases. It can also lead to hurt feelings, and, occasionally, to emotional trauma. If it's something you're considering, don't. If it's something you're doing, stop.
2006-08-07 16:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who cares what they think? You do what you feel works for you, that's all. Plain and simple. Live your life how you want, screw the others.
2006-08-07 16:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cuz they dont want to be hurt again, again, again, again
2006-08-07 16:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it just is
2006-08-07 16:11:06 · answer #9 · answered by .? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋