My friend almost commited suicide(please serious answers)?

Question

I was talking to my friend on the phone last night and it started off great. But then he told me something about his ex and it hurt me and I got mad at him. He got mad at me for getting mad at him(we are in love btw but hundreds of miles apart) and he started yelling but when he stopped yelling he started to hate himself for getting mad. He's been depressed for quite some time because his brother/best friend commited suicide. He smoked pot and snorted some cocaine. He promised he wouldnt do it again. Anyway while i was talking to him he kept saying that it would be best if he just disappeared for me and it scared me really bad. He hung up on me with his last words "Im going to kill myself. I love you. I called him several times and screamed into his answering machine and on my final attempt to call and save him he picked up and said he couldnt do that again to me (he almost died once before). It scared me so bad and I cant go to sleep at night becauseIm worried. what do i do?!

I am not insane or crazy and neither is he. I'm just scared out of my mind and that's why my question is all over the place.

also he almost killed himself. he's not doing this for attention ok? he almost stabbed himself to death. he's not attention hungry and he just wants the best for both of us but he doesn't understand that the best for both of us is to keep him alive.

Answer 1

I'm really sorry for you and him both. There is nothing YOU can do. You can't go through this depression for him. You are not responsible for keeping him alive. You can not do that. Only HE can do that. When someone is going to commit suicide they can only think about themselves. They are irrational and can't care about what anyone else in the family would go through. The only thing is to encourage him to go to get help. He really needs to talk to a professional regarding his feelings about what happened. That would throw anybody into a spin down. He is also dragging you into into the dark part of his world by using you as an excuse when he used the phrase of "disappearing for you" and telling you he loved you while threatening suicide. He is playing games with you on purpose when he will not answer the phone when you called so desperately after his threat. Maybe he is not totally committed to doing it when he says he "couldn't do that again" to you, but he's still depressed.
I'm sorry you are so worried. But you have your own life to think about, also. The stress you are putting on yourself by not sleeping will affect the rest of your life outside of this situation.
Your worry about him and not sleeping can cause you to become depressed and extremely stressed if it lasts too long.
You are far apart. How often do you see each other? It's so difficult when you can't see what is really going on yourself. All kinds of things go through your head, If he just keeps going along the same way I just encourage you to insist he get help or you're going to get out. Don't let him drag you down. I hope you have people you can talk to about this. You need that, also.
Best to both of you.
M

Answer 2

On the bright side, your friend is probably threatening suicide only to get attention that he wants from others. It could be a way to make people care about him more... so if you and more friends of his come together and throw a party, hang out together or just spend time with him to show just how much you care about him, then maybe he will stop having suicidal thoughts.

Another way to stop someone from killing themselves is by showing others need them. You could tell your friend how much you need him in your life, and maybe then he wouldn't hurt himself for your sake.

Good luck, dear, and I hope all will be well with both of you. My prayers are with you!

Answer 3

You sound a little crazy yourself - way too much irrelevant information - I bet in real life you talk this way too.

Anyway, crazy people tend to find each other because everyone needs companionship.

Nevertheless, suicide watch is no way to have a relationship. It is too much to handle while you are personally involved.

I would break up with this person for the sanity of both of you.

Answer 4

It appears that your friend could use some serious counseling. People who threaten suicide aren't to be taken lightly..can you talk to a family member of his? Depression can be helped. Has he been treated for it yet?

Drugs only will add to his problems, so if I were you I'd try to see who you could talk to besides on Yahoo Answers to search for some help for him.

Answer 5

get out fast

Answer 6

i would tell him to not do that again or it's over.