serious answers please!?

Question

would you leave your husband if you thought he didn't like your child who is not his? Even though he tries to get along with him sometimes and has mentally abused him to the point where your son is depressed? My son keeps asking me if we can leave him. We are both unhappy.

Help me please!

Thanks to everyone who answered. You have helped me to understand that this is something that my son and my girls don't deserve to go thru. And that I'd be better off without him.

Thanks so much!

Answer 1

You have an obligation to your child more than you do your husband. I would seriously address this with him and if he is unwilling or unable to seek help or change anything then you MUST leave him for the sake of your child. Damage has been done...whether it is long term or short term is now up to you. I hope all goes well for the both of you and you do what you know is right for your situation.

Best of luck and if your husband is unwilling to discuss or change things then naturally you must leave.

Answer 2

If your husband can't respect your son then he is in essence disrespecting you because you have instilled the character in him. If he cannot find another way to talk to your son with out metal abuse either he or You and son need to leave ASAP. Don't waste too much time deciding - this will help:
Your husband may leave you at anytime -
Your son will always be there for you and will take care of you in old age - Will your husband do the same?

Answer 3

absolutely. the fact that you haven't left your husband yet is very sad. your son has only you in the whole enitre world, and if he can't rely on you to do what is right for him, who can he rely on. at this point it is not about you, but about what is best for your son. you are shaping the man he will be when he grows up and if your husband keeps treating him like this then it is going to spell very terrible things for your son.
i am a professional in these types of matters and if you don't take action now this mental abuse will slowly but surely escalate to something worse. i am sure you love your husband, but love between mother and child is the strongest most important bond between two people. men come and go, but your child is your flesh and blood, and when you gave birth to him you made a silent promise to put his well being before anyone else's including your own. please, take care of you child, and leave your husband.

Answer 4

I think you really know the answer to this question and that you are looking more of others to validate what you are thinking.

I don't think there would ever be anyone that could come between my daughter and myself. My ex husband lost in that regard as well. Rule number 1 ... never make a woman choose between her children and a man ... typically the man will lose every time.

It won't be easy to get back out there on your own, but in the long run both you and your son will benefit from it. Hold true to yourself as you know what is best for both of you.

Stay true to yourself and be happy ... good things are bound to happen.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 5

I stayed in my marriage for about 3 years after I knew I was already unhappy. If and when the time comes for you to leave you will know without a doubt.

Answer 6

Absolutely! You went into this marriage as a package deal. Abuse of any kind can be very harmful. No one will ever hurt my children. My children would be first in every aspect of my life.
If you are both unhappy, I see no reason to stay.

Answer 7

Why are you wasting time even asking this. You should be packing you and your son'd things and heading out the door! You need to take care of yourself and your son and it sounds like this guy (jerk) doesn't want to be part of that. If you are both unhappy...what is that telling you????
Don't you want to be happy? Don't you and he deserve to be happy??? YES, you do! pack your stuff and get out as soon as possible!

Answer 8

Yes,
This becomes hard on you and your child. You have to think of your child. This could scar him for the rest of your life. When he met you he should have known that you and your child was a package deal. You have to look deep within yourself and ask " Who is more important the husband or the child"? I think we both know the answer.
Good Luck

Answer 9

If both of you are unhappy then maybe you should at least consider a temporary separation. Then if you and your child are happy without this man, there is your answer.

Answer 10

yes... u should leave him. because the person u are looking for is not only someone who is going to take care of u, make u happy, healthy, safe and secure; he has to do it for your child too. u are a package. until u find someone who can take care of BOTH of u, u have to think about ur son, and do ur best to take care of him. it's different if u were single w/ no kids; then u are looking for someone who can take care of only U and make u happy, and u can see a future together. it takes a strong man to be that for someone who has another child from somewhere else..and if u have to keep looking and searching, do it. it's worth it to make ur son grow up healthy and happy. ur son is depending on YOU to take care of his healthy, mental and physical. don't endanger it because u need something... that is selfish. love is where u care about someone SO much that u want what's BEST of them ,even at ur expense. in this case, it is ur Son's love that u need to take care of..... at ur expense of feeling "lonely". take care of him, and u will be rewarded. take care of urself; take care of ur appearance, ur mind, ur confidence, and u will realize that ur expectations are high because you deserve the best!! u are the best, ur son is the best, therfore u deserve only the best! if u keep up those boundaries, the bad guys will filter out, and the one who sticks and stands the test will be worthy.