I find it amazing how many women under 21 have children from my high school?

Question

I have talked with some girls who graduated around high school around the time I did.

A lot of them have children already and they are about 20-22 years old. Some of them even have TWO children.

The sad thing is that a lot of them are not married or with the babies’ fathers. Some of the guys are not even in contact with the babies.

Why does this seem so common? I live in the city so its not like all there is to do around here is get pregnant.

Only one girl was married and told me her baby was planned. I don’t get how there can be so many young women with accidental pregnancies!

Answer 1

I agree if they are married and have babies, but it's alarming how many girls I went to school woth have children (I am 20). My sister is a junior in high school and they have a 'mommy club' in her school. because of all the girls who have children. I am married and I feel I am too young to be a mother even though I have the emotional support and financial support of my husband. I feel bad for these girls who are unmarried and struggling as young mothers.

Answer 2

I firmly believe that if young teen girls were taught from their birth that they are to be valued for something OTHER Than their looks (and this is how I raised my two children) -- then the issue of pregnancy will not come up with so many absent fathers around.

Absent fathers is another problem -- and we do NOT hold the young people today to the same morals and standards of behavior that were expected of young men when I was that age -- Both myself (a single mom) and my brothers all know the responsibility of being RESPONSIBLE and caring parents -- and have done that when the other parent abused the children, disappeared, and REFUSED to accept their LEGAL Responsibilities for their care.

It is as simple as this: When I grew up -- the idea was "What can one do for their country (society as a whole). NOW ... it is "WHAT can the country do for ME (meaning selfishness -- and this shows when the only reason they were together in the 1st place was sex). Sadly, I see this so often it makes me sick -- and then we have a messed up legal system that does NOT hold these deadbeat parents accountable for their actions.

Finally, a lot of girls have misconceptions about pregnancy -- it can (and DOES) happen on the 1st time, and in an instant, your life is CHANGED forever. I am always astounded at the LACK of knowledge and outright misinformation that these girls rely on during their interactions with males. Remember -- it TAKES TWO to make the baby -- but with the Female, YOU now have responsibility for the next 18 years after the birth.

Answer 3

Yes I know exactly what you mean. I graduated in 2001 so the females in my graduating class should be about 23 now and I would say that 85% of them already have one or two children. When I was a senior there were a few freshmen that were pregnant! I don't understand why girls have babies so young. Birth control is not hard to obtain. I don't know any females that are married or engaged and they have children. Most of them are not even with their baby's daddy. It's sad. I used to think the females at my high school though getting pregnant was the "in" thing because they would brag about it! I'm 23 with no kids and I brag about that!

Answer 4

Well I'm one of the young mom's your describing (sort of). I got pregnant with my first child at 17 and with my second at 18. I'm not married to their father but I will be soon. The reason we haven't gotten marriage is because of school. Long story short, I was supposed to get $7000 in grants for college because I would have been considered a "single" mother. It didn't work out that way so now we are planning our wedding. It may not be anything huge but we'll be married. People look at me funny when they find out I'm 20 with 2 kids. Numerous times I have been asked if my kids had the same father. Of course they do because he's the only man I've ever been with. I have been pregnant 4 times. All 4 times I was on birth control. 1st-condoms, 2nd-the patch, 3rd- the nuva ring, 4th-IUD(mirena). @ pregnancies resulted in miscarriage and the other 2 resulted in 2 beautiful, healthy girls. My fiance and I have NEVER been on welfare. He and I BOTH finished high school. I was done with school 4 months before I gave birth to my first child and graduated with a 4.0. Even though our kids weren't planned, we still love them more than anything. Life throws curve balls once in a while; all you can do is try everything possible to make things better.

Answer 5

I'm a proud mum and i'm 21!

my now husband and i planned and concieved our beautiful daughter 3 years ago and she is the biggest accomplishment I have and will ever make in my life (besides more children)

I agree that it's a sad tale that there are so many young and single mums out there today

But for me personally, I met my partner when I was 16, got engaged to him on my 17th birthday, moved into our own house with him later that year and gave birth to our child when I was 18. I married him 2 years later at 20 and we are coming up for our 2 year wedding anniversary this September.

This goes to show that there are young mums out there who are making the right decisions for their children and are doing a good job in the process.

I work also so I don't rely on the government to support me, I'm a qualified Pre-School deputy.

The reality is that girls become woman alot sooner than they used to nowdays, it's just a sign of the times!

Answer 6

I don't find it as amazing as I do sad. These pregnancies weren't accidental. These girls made the choice to sleep around when they were too young to act responsibly and failed to consider the consequences of having babies without the committment of marriage. It's a sad commentary on our culture that many babies are aborted, left on doorsteps or in trash cans, or are neglected and abused by parents who aren't mature enough to be good parents. And a lot of the babies grow up never knowing who the father is because he thought his task was complete after he donated his sperm and impregnated a girl. The courts took God out of the schools, out of public buildings, are trying to make it illegal to display anything regarding Christmas and our Lord's birth, and now want to call our Christmas trees "Holiday Trees". America has gotten off on a path of immorality, violence and irresponsibility. If it continues, America will not long remain the greatest nation on earth because God will not honor such behavior with His blessings.

Answer 7

The same thing has been common with people from my high school class (we're '02). People are either married or have a kid but not both. And in the one case of both, the baby came first. I don't know why it's so common but I have noticed the same trend.

Answer 8

I never understood it either until I got involved with my boyfriend. We've been together for over 3 1/2 years. Recently I've been understanding that concept more and more. It's really easy when you love someone to want to have unprotected sex because you feel it is right and you know they don't have any diseases...(this is in my case) I'm 20 years old and right now I could potentially BE pregnant with my boyfriend because we finally had full blown unprotected sex with no method used whatsoever. I know that he would never leave me, so this is in my case...but your friends...I can't answer for all of those people, but from personal experience, that's my response.

Answer 9

Well I myself had my first child @ 17 and then my second @ 22 and I have been with BOTH of my kids father since I was 16 so YES there are people out there who can have kids young and still manage to keep there man.

Answer 10

I also find it rather sad. Especially when a baby is not planned. I think its happening more and more because these girls arent educated on the hardships of having babies at an early age and having babies without marriage.