Dated this incredible girl for four years, broke up with her prior to moving to another country. Loved her deeply, but she didn't want to move. Upon return she was married to an old friend. Tried to get over it and moved on -- I thought. Got married, had kids, but still can't get this girl out of my head. I need to forget this person!!!
2006-08-07 08:23:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Four lears is a long time. You loved her deeply. You never will forget her but you have to learn to live with something you cannot change. It is not easy, believe me I know, but you must not let it become destructive of what you do have. Presumably you love your wife, perhaps not in the same way but love her each day and it will grow deeper and better than any you have known before. You are lucky to have a wife to have children think of all the positives in your life and nourish these things. The girl from the past is that the girl from the past who you are perhaps remembering with tinted glasses ...........think back were there bad times? Examine these bad times and the possibility the were the forewarning that the relationship would not work in the long term. And lastly celebrate you knew her, loved her and that you now have others to love and cherish.
I am trying hard to forget someone, I know it is hard but try to console myself with thinking of the negative effect all the brooding is having on my life.
2006-08-07 08:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Some people are just plain unforgetable. But most of the time is because you haven't had enough closure with her. Try writing her a letter- don't care how long just tell her everything- but don't send the letter. You will feel better already, trust me. I wanted to say talk to her but that might not be a good idea- you might cause trouble in their marriage (& yours) if she still shares the same feelings with you, so.
Another way is to lower your expectations on your wife- you're putting your ex on the pedestal, no wonder no one can beat her. As long as you have this attitude no one will surpass her in your mind and you can't ever move on. Besides, your ex can't be that perfect... for your own benefit try to focus on the negatives of her- I know it's not fair for her but that's not important for now, no one else has to know.
2006-08-07 08:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by Bobbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm...How about cherishing and focusing on what you do have, a wife and kids that love you. Rather than what you don't have.
There's a history there with you ex, so she'll always have a place in your heart as well as the memories you shared.
If the love you had for her is what you say it is, you will never forget her. However, you need to focus on what you have rather than what you don't have. Cause we will always want what we can't have.
2006-08-07 08:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize that your ex has moved on. She obviously did not want to be with you that bad, otherwise she would still be. Your current wife deserves better than this. Why are you even married to her when in your heart you'd rather be with your ex? Shame on you! You should give your wife a chance. She is the one you gave your vows to.
2006-08-07 08:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of it this way...she obviously did NOT love YOU enough to move/wait/visit/travel on your behalf. You are the one who needs to realize you are hung up on someone who moved on after you were gone. Give the person you are with now what she deserves or leave her already. Quit whinning about it.
2006-08-07 08:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by saucylatina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋