I told her to tell her husband the truth. Am I wrong for suggesting she do this?
2006-08-07 08:18:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And I didn't "butt in" she asked my opinion.
2006-08-07 08:33:33 · update #1
Mr. Chivalry says, "That's true. There may be some resentment if things go sour. If she asks for advice again, let her know that whatever she does is her decision. I'm sure she knows that her act alone is her own devastation, because the damage was already done, by her. She can't make you the scapegoat if she decides to air her dirty laundry. Maybe she can work it out with her husband, but that's their business. You did tell her the best decision to make though. Good luck."
Mr. Chivalry has spoken.
2006-08-07 08:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you aren't wrong, you gave her advice, she doesn't have to take the advise, but if i were in your shoes i would have said the same thing, currently she is living a lie, her husband may leave her, but you know what, she is the one that decided at some point to cheat on him and not tell him, so now she is going to have to "pay" for the consequences. This is exactly why people shouldn't cheat in the first place.
2006-08-07 08:29:10 · answer #2 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to tell her husband. That is awful that she would have unprotected sex with some man and then do it with her husband. She is exposing him to all sorts of STD's and he doesn't even know about it. As far as the baby goes, I feel bad that it is going to have a mom like that.
2006-08-07 08:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. Yes you are in the wrong for even getting involved in such a delicate situation. No you are not wrong for expressing your values and morals to someone who obviously has none. Now that you know just take a step back just in case "it" hits the fan. Last thing anyone needs is to have someone else's crap land all over their head.
2006-08-07 08:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by saucylatina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its her choice the only thing you should tell her is you support whatever decision she makes but tell her to be careful and weigh out the pro and cons if i were her i would test the other guy first then if it comes out being her husband she spared him the hurt.contact the other man and explain the love she feels for her baby and her husband and does not want to see anyone hurt until she knows for herself first.if its the other mans baby then she has some explaining to do.
2006-08-07 08:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jerry Springer.
2006-08-07 08:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by iamiandme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you better to get this out in the open than let it fester and the husband should find out on his own.
2006-08-07 08:25:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not.She has a responsibility to the child to find out who the Father is.
2006-08-07 08:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by jpcbbc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id say that your best bet is to stay out of it. He's going to freak out when/if she tells him and she is going to be mad at you for your suggestion even though you are right.
2006-08-07 08:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are wrong.
You don't need to tell people things that can't be fixed and that would only cause them pain if they knew.
2006-08-07 10:46:17 · answer #10 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋