How long do you suggest a married couple wait to have children, in an effort to build a strong bond between the two of them? Or simply to enjoy the most time together before the responsibilities of children.
2006-08-07 08:02:26 · 7 answers · asked by A. Sorola 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is something that is unique to every couple. My husband and I were together for more than 4 years before we married so we started right away.
Others wait many years. The answer is what is going to work for you.
I would suggest trying to save some money and also make sure you take any major trips before hand.
It *may* be many years before you have the freedom to travel or pursue any expensive hobbies -- flying, skiing, cars, etc.
Another good thing to do is talk about your families of origin and ask questions about how discipline worked and didn't work and begin collaborating on your approach. It may seem like a long way away but 18, 19 and 20 will be there before you know it and that is not the time to be having disagreements over rules, curfews, permissions and consequences.
best
cez
ps don't wait too long because it is a little harder to keep up with them.
2006-08-07 08:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by cezzium 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait as long as you possibly can. I've been married a year and I'm 28 and don't want children yet. I don't know if I ever will. It's just never been a goal of mine. You should try to go 3 years so that you and your husband can enjoy each other, then see where you're at, at that time. Best wishes!
2006-08-07 15:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's any absolute rule. Most couples prefer to wait a couple years, until they've matured & developed a strong bond & that's fine. But if they're mature enough & already have a strong bond, I see no reason for them to wait. That's fine, too. At least, that's how I look at it.
2006-08-07 15:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by WillyC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, dont let anybody tell you when you should have kids. You will know when its time. You can wait a month or 5 years, whenever you feel like you want a baby, then its time. Remember you will never be truly ready, no one ever is, But if you want a kid go for it.
2006-08-07 15:10:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until your 21, have fun & enjoy life til then. Raising a family is a LONG haul.
2006-08-07 15:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by yvonne p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after the newlywed stage. mewlyweds do one thing thing the best...f*cking. so after y'all are over yourselves, make love and work on each other's strenghts and weaknesses and after that you'll be ready for a child. so about a 14-20 months into the marriage.
2006-08-07 15:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by Eryc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forever!
don't get me wrong. i love my kids but its better to be w/o.
2006-08-07 15:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by bella_mexicana_rellena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋