Has anyone had their mother-in-law react to pregnancy news negatively?

Question

My mother-in-law has hated me since I “stole” her only child away from her 5 years ago.

One time my husband joked that I was pregnant and she put on this happy face like she was excited.

When she found out it was a joke, she said she was relieved because she didn’t want ME to have her son’s child.

Well, now we are planning a baby and I know my mother in law will pretend to be happy but will be mad on the inside when she finds out.

How did your mean mother-in-law act when she heard your pregnancy news?

Answer 1

I feel your pain! I have had this mother-in-law way too long,and could write a best seller! When I was pregnant with my first,she encouraged me to have an abortion! She denys this now.With my second,I told her the news by phone and she said,well I dont know whether to congratulate you,or give my sympathies!
People like her,and yours,they never fit in,because they belong to a very small group.Ignore her,and plan for your baby.You will be an excellent mom!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

My mother-on-law treated me quite well at first, until I moved in with them. She started talking bad about me when no one is there. She feeds me left over food while everyone else is eating fresh food from the same day. She's always talking about my weight. She once said I shouldn't be swimming because I weigh too much and I may drown. We've finally moved out to stay away from her criticism. A year later, she said I'm too fat to get pregnant. As soon as I got pregnant, she criticized my maternity clothes. She's always telling me what I should do and what I shouldn't do. She's always criticizing me when no one's there. I'm constantly yelling at my husband on the way she treats me. Unfortunately, my husband wasn't there to see and hear what she does to me, so there's nothing he can do. Even if he was there, he wouldn't say anything at all. This is why our marriage is very unstable. I've got to a point where I feel depressed and I just want to leave my husband, so I can get rid of her. This is my baby and I will raise him the way I want to. The next time she talks bad about me, I will definately talk back.

Answer 4

My sister's mother-in-law was horrible when Lisa was pregnant. She would whine and complain about it, and it was worse when Beth was born. She wanted to be in the same room as Lisa when she was having birth, and Lisa hates the women and didn't want her there. Lisa's husband had to get his mom out of the room with literal force.

Needless to say, her mom-in-law has still been an absolute B****, but she's gotten a little bit better over the past two years.

If your mother-in-law is going to act like that, she doesn't disserve to be a grandma, anyway. You sound perfectly nice, and that woman needs to get over it! Have your husband talk to her since it sounds like she adores him...

Hope everything works out!

-Lella^_^

Answer 5

Very interesting! I'm not too sure because i wasn't there but my husband is 3.5 yrs younger than me and when she found out we were married she didn't seem too excited about it. I met her for the first time last summer and she didn't seem to excited to meet me and while we were out for dinner, she seemed to talk to everyone at the table but me.

Anyway, we've been married for 4 years and just had our first child. I really don't know how she reacted to the news but she did try to communicate with me through my husband. Now our son is almost 7mths old and occasionally she'll asked to speak to me when she calls and I think that since the baby is here she's better but don't think she was too excited about that either.

I say go for it whatever it may be...you didn't marry her you married your husband and regardless of what people say...You don't marry into families when you get married, you create a new family and if other family members cant/wont/don't accept it, then forget them. I try to be kind to my mother in law because i want my husband to respect my mother...but i do it for him because i love him.

Good luck.....where do women get off being rude, inconsiderate mother in laws? To me it makes no sense, it takes more energy to be mean and rude than to smile and if they want to waste all that energy...then let them! You just keep on smiling.

Answer 6

She sounds like one of those toxic people that lives to upset others. If she's isn't happy about the prospect of you having her son's child I'd say to her "as far as YOU are concerned I don't have your son's child and in the interest of accommodating your fantasy you won't ever see the child until you apologize."

There was a time when I would have suggested that you be the bigger person, but having dealt with my own toxic mother-in-law for the last ten years, I've learned that people like that understand one thing: Being told why you're upset and what you're going to do about it in front of witnesses... never try to deal with them one on one without anyone else present. They'll just deny everything they've said and become sneakier and more subtle with the insults.

It's not easy to deal with people like this and when I'm not in the mood to put up with my mother-in-law, I just don't. I never go to dinner or shopping with her when I'm not 100% prepared to do battle with her, call her on every nasty remark she makes and express my own opinions about her rants. Good luck!

Answer 7

I say so what. You and your husband have a right to plan a family just like everyone else. I would talk to your husband about your feelings and go from there how you guys are going to handle her but I would not worry about it. She needs to grow up and realize her son is not a little boy anymore. I've had mother in law issues before but not like this. Good luck.

Answer 8

My sister was over at her fiance's house with his mother. Both my sister and his mother were going to spend the night at his house, they were going to sleep in his bed. His mother made a fit and told him to sleep on the couch. Then she said, well, doesn't matter, the damage is already done....and glared at my sister. Now that my sister has had her baby, grandma is psychotically in love with the child and obsessed. Mean mother-in-laws are just crazy, and should be shrugged off. Its her choice to welcome her grand baby into the world with love or with hatred. You shouldn't worry about her because she isn't important to the relationship. Congratulations on the pregnancy!

Answer 9

Your mother in law sounds like a controlling, bitter witch. I'd stay away from her and her negative influence over you, your potential baby and your husband. (who obviously doesn't respect your feeling enough to tell his mother to eff off if she can't show his wife some common decency)!

Answer 10

acctually i have a great relationship with my soon-to-be-mother-in-law...lol...im only 17 but she cant wait to have another grandchild and she loves me....she asks my boyfriend about me and how im doing all the time...which is great cuz me and him have only been dating 2 months