I am drug addick I have been clean for 3 yrs.?

Question

My best friend who has to be my friend from a distant in still in to heavy drugs. I moved away from the enviorment to clean my life up. I return to the city over the weekend for a reunion. I seen her I could barely recongnize her, This women was 180 pds. her boyfriend told me she was 97 pds.I am so scared for her I love her but I can't die in that mess. Some people smoke crack and some people let crack smoke them. Anyway, she started a rumer that I had died a year ago of kidney failure, which I don't have kidney problems. I don't care if a bunch of crack heads think I am dead or alive but this girl was suppose to be my best, we have known each other since we were 9 years old over 28 years. She has been pouring salt on me big time.

Answer 1

Congrats on being clean for 3 years. It's very sad to hear that your friend hasn't been as fortunate as you but the only person you can look after at present is yourself. As far as the rumour that she started about you perhaps she was trying to defect some of the heat off herself by saying these things about you. As far as being your best friend this may have been true when you were 9 and up until you both got messed up on the crack. But you know yourself that her best friend and probably her only true friend right now is the crack.

I have been clean and sober for a number of years now also. I have also had to give up some of the people I use to run with and considered friends. Reality is though that most people we meet through our years of using are acquaintences. These people use us for what they can get out of us and we them for same reason. Through recovery we are fortunate enough to learn of our real beings and can relate to others fortunate enough to have travelled some of the same roads we have journeyed. We all need examples in our lives and we are examples to others also. The bad examples are just as important as the good examples and we can learn just as much if not more from them, as they show us where we could be. Perhaps at present this is your old best friends function to you, to set a bad example so that you do not have to use the crack. Watch her and this will help you stay clean. In time perhaps she will witness the example you are to her and want to live her life free from substance abuse also, but until she is ready you'd know better than anyone that this cannot be forced as she can only sober up for herself.

I wish you many more years of being clean, One Day At A Time, and hope that your friend can find a live of sobriety also before it is too late.

Answer 2

She probably doesn't realize what she is doing if she is smoking that much crack...and she probably only cares about herself. You may have been best friends with her in the past, but you need to leave her alone now and not let her suck you back into the world of drugs by starting some rumors about you. Praying for her is probably all you can do at this point. Congratulations on being clean for three years!

Answer 3

It sounds like she lost her best crack friend and is jealous that you were strong enough to beat the addiction. Offer her your support and help to stop using. If she refuses then move on. What happens if you hang out with her again and you have a moment of weakness, she'll pull you right back in where you started. Friends come and go through out our lifetime and it doesn't matter how long you've known them. Our true friends will always be there. You seem like a true friend but she isn't. Especially after telling people you died. Time to find some caring friends. Congratulations for beating that horrible addiction.

Answer 4

You ought to know from first hand experience that when people are under the influence of drugs, they dont think clearly, they are not logical, and sometimes are not logical. You are trying to figure out with a clear mind, why someone on drugs, is doing and saying things with a clouded mind. It sounds like you guys were best friends when you had the same interests. Now, that you have cleaned up, you are going to have to let some things go, even your best friend.

Dont spend a lot of time trying to analyze this. The things that your friend is doing to you is a result of her brain being on drugs.

Leave her alone and that old lifestyle alone. Congratulations on three years and stay away from old playgrounds and playmates.

Answer 5

stay away from her.....don't go back unless you are there to see family. If she was truly your best friend she would have cleaned her life up too. But it sounds mean but you 2 were friends before drugs, but mostly during drugs. If she wants to stay where she is at there is nothing you can do, but hope for the best. Whatever you do stay away so that you don't fall back into that life style again.

Congrats on being sober for 3 years. I love hearing about someone who has changed their life to get away from drugs. I watch INTERVENTION every Sunday.

Answer 6

You should know from experience that drugs make you do and say things you would never normally do. I'm sure she didn't mean to hurt you. She was probably trying to get sympathy or maybe even money. You know you can't change anyone but yourself. Congrats to you on your sobriety! As hard as it is, you just need to let your friend know you are there if she decides to get clean but otherwise there is no room in your life for her.

Answer 7

Congrats to you for overcoming your addiction. You are doing the right thing by staying away from the old environment. All I can tell you to do is to pray for her. If you feel for her you could turn her into Adult Protective Services. I will pray for you and her.

Answer 8

Good job 4 staying clean hope u get over it Luv ya

Answer 9

what is the question? You should tell her how you feel but if you are recovering and your friends are still in drugs, you need to stay away from them. They can be bad influences.

Answer 10

sometimes you have to sever the ties that hurt the most ,if she is too far to be reached dont let her drag you down move on and up and dont look back, good luck,and congratulations!!