November will be our 4 yr anniversary. Why is it taking him so long to get married? We have already talked about marriage and we are both committed to the fact that we were made for each other and we ARE getting married some day...but when is it too long? Will we ever get married? He says he wants children and so do I. I have 3 from a previous marriage and he loves them to death. He is 40. I am 27. He has never been married nor has any children of his own. His mother moved in with him 20yrs ago when her husband (not bf father) died. Please help.
2006-08-07 07:11:30 · 5 answers · asked by sapphiresunstar 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no good reason for her to live with him in the first place. She gets a check every month so should could very well move out on her own. We bought some land and he is planning on moving out when we get married. I have already put my foot down about her living with us.
2006-08-07 07:24:42 · update #1
He's 40 and been living with his Mom for 20 years. So she's been young enough to to work and get her own place. Sounds as if you boyfriend is stringing you along and it is he who is dependant on her. My brother was like this for years. Emotionally if not monentarily. Marrying would change all of that. And do you think someone who has no kids and has been in this situation would be emotionally prepared to suddenly have the responsibility of a family? No he likes things as they are and has no incentive to change it. You could wait forever. Hate to say it but you need to take a stand, talk to the mother as well since there seems to be some crap going on and once it's all out either it will change or you will have a chance to move on..... and find a regular guy.
2006-08-07 07:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess you should just move on...he is never gonna marry you,i know its painful but its the fact......
u can try and find it for your self...give him a time limit of a week or so to get married and if he doesn't pls move on....you are too young and have a long way to go....
2006-08-07 07:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON"T DO IT!!!!!!!!!! You are asking for trouble. Don't do it. I have been there and although my mother in law does not live with us now I still don't like her. Marrying a guy who has his mom living with him can be a deal breaker. If you decide to marry him, do it with caution.
2006-08-07 07:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by Keke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it. After 4 years his mother is still forbidding him to get married and he's listening to her.
2006-08-07 07:16:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's too set in his ways. It's not gonna happen. You'll never get him away from his mother. You may as well move on.
2006-08-07 07:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋