Has child services made it hard for parents to raise their kids?

Question

Without them poking their noses in your bussiness. I don't believe you should hit the child, unless in extreme cases they need a good spanking. But child services goes beyond that and if they hear you saying somehting like stop acting like a brat, they're at your house investigating you. It's great that children have protection like this but I think in many situations child services goes way too far and investigates for the wrong reasons.

Answer 1

yes! in my experience cps has abused more children with the excuse to save them from there parents then children are actually abused. everything is child abuse now. so our children think that it's OK to be disrespectful to everyone. then when the crap hits the fan it's the parents fault. they are enabling our children from taking responsibility for themselves. it's criminal. the children that are truly abused still are being abused . that is what is criminal. sadly enough it's just another way to revenue dollars. i don't think the government care about our children and our children don't care about themselves for they lack discipline and that is a very important part of growing up and knowing right from wrong. that also let's them know you care about them and you are paying attention to how they are behaving. discipline is not a bad thing. if my dad didn't make me own my decisions i would not be who i am today. a responsible person. it seems if you have money you can afford to put your children in the activities that should be in the schools anyways. the government has ripped the family unit to shreds. they are using our children against there own parents. our children don't know it until it is to late and they are ripped out of there home and now they are traumatized. God help our children see thru there evil.

Answer 2

I think if you're a good parent to your child or children, then you should really have no worries. I can recall when my daughter was younger, after falling on the sidewalk and scraping her knees, hitting her head on a table, and an accidental fall down about 5 stairs, she looked beaten and bruised! Though I would never even think of raising a hand to her, I couldn't help but wonder what others might think if I would take her into a public place like the grocery store. Bottom line is - I wasn't the least bit worried because I knew what kind of parent I was. I think Child protective services are really there to protect the kids where there is obviously a problem in the house, and it's there for good reason as well, and certainly I would support them poking their nose into the business if there was reason to do so. Yes, when my daughter was younger I feared that happening, but even if it did, I imagined a short visit, with maybe a follow up some time later, and they would also have no doubt in their minds.

Answer 3

This is where the parents should have the wherewithal of parenting. A child reacts out of negativity in order to get a parents attention. That's all it comes from. If the parent is not quite giving that child enough attention, the child will sound off. A child who is happy and orderly receives hugs and kisses and attention from the parent, therefore, no need to strike out negativitively. Observe for yourself the difference in children and how the parents talk to their children and ignore the children and let TV or an electronic game raise their children and you will find that a child has discipline issues. And though it can easily be corrected because all children crave love and affection, parents can't see what they are doing to their children. A child is always looking up to their parents, so quite naturally, the child when doing something wants parental interaction. It's not the child's fault when parents ignore their children. The child is only doing what comes naturally when he's asking for something. And the more he keeps asking for the same thing, the more intolerable he can become in doing so. If the parent sought after the child in the first place, there would be no need for the child to act out because the child was satisfied, so the child remains orderly, But a child not receiving attention gives of negative actions and is perceived as 'bad'. When give him the positive loving action he was asking for so determinedly and he will go away orderly as well. But if he knows that through negative actions is going to get the parents attention even if their attention is negative, at least he got some attention.

Answer 4

Child services are there only so to watch out for abused children but I feel looking up a spanking given to a brat is quite wrong, 'cos sometimes one little tap on the backside does wonders and does not hurt the child, thus such cases should not be investigated but a prolonged beating of any sort needs help both for the child and the parents.

Answer 5

Almost every state has the mandate to reunite children with their parent(s). This means that children who are really being abused and/or neglected are often sent back to the same environment. Besides, group homes and foster homes are not any "safer" than what some children already live in. Research how many Administrators have been arrested for sexual abuse of children under thier care. Research the requirements for becoming an "investigator." People believe these systems are in place to protect the children. I am 100% for protecting children, but that is not happening within most of the state programs. The system needs an overhaul because more often than not it seems they are destroying families.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/childprotectionreform/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Eyes_on_CPS/

Answer 6

I know a kid that told his teacher that if she flunked him, his parents would beat him. The teacher called child services. The Parents called his bluff and told the child to pack and go live with child services. The kid got the message right quick.
There are too many out there that truly need protection. A good spanking never hurt anyone. With the rudeness of kids today, I think more should be in order.

Answer 7

I agree with you. When I was growing up, my parents spank me and that thought me a lot about not doing anything stupid. Also, my friend have three kids, and she does not make a lot of money from her job, but child services told her that she have to have a room for each kids or they will take her kids away. Are they crazy? She can't even afford to many house with her paycheck right now, but they want her to have room for each kids? Are they going to pay for it? This is outrageous.
My friend would rather have the money going to groceries rather than having four bedroom house and not being able to feed the kids.

Answer 8

Government has made it hard to raise your children. It is just like with GUNS or any other issue. They want to protect society from gun crimes, but they're targeting the wrong people!

To JONI - OH YES THEY DO POKE THEIR NOSES where they don't belong. They poked them in my parents house when I was 12 or 13. They said it had been reported my Dad was abusing me. It was unfounded. My Dad NEVER touched me in an abusive way. I imagine that is a rare case, but it does happen!

Answer 9

in my dealings with Child services, I have noticed that for the most part, they are there to protect the kids from obvious harm. they know when a parent is there beating a kid or not. but, sometimes some parents get in trouble for over disciplining. That's rare. They're pretty good, it's better to have them than not, imagine havin no protection for them in this crazy fishbowl world.

Answer 10

Yes they have. Child services has bought into the Doctor Spock approach to raising children(a method that Dr. SPock himself admitted was flawed and didnt work before he died). According to that method.."time out" is the worst you could do to that child. Anything else was abuse.

Now you have a whole generation of spoiled brats running around thinking they can do whatever they want and they dont owe ANYONE...including their parents any respect. No wonder our jail system is overcrowded.