Should I be offended by my fiance calling me a waste of flesh? Or should I brush it off?

Question

It was said during a disagreement.

I am a man.....does that change the answer that people give? And she is a woman.

Answer 1

This is a HUGE red flag that you must end the relationship now! No matter how angry you get, you should never stoop to name calling because of the tremendous emotional damage it can cause. No one who loved you would ever say this in a serious way.

Answer 2

Verbal abuse is just as scarring as physical abuse. Even if your fiance said this during a disagreement it doesn't make it OK. Let me give you a little advice, my Mom always told me that be careful what you say no matter how angry you are because once its said, you may be able to forgive, but never forget. You are the only person that can truly answer your own question. There are so many things to be considered here, but the most important is your self worth.

Answer 3

Do not brush it off. This is a sign that something much deeper is going on. Even if she was intoxicated to the hilt she would not say such a thing unless she meant it in some way. If I were you I would be very careful. Protect your heart because something is very wrong.

I would not be so quick to marry this girl. In some way she feels that you are not living up to who and/or what she thinks you should be. Maybe you can wait until things cool off and simply ask her what you have done to make her say such a hateful thing.

Answer 4

It does not matter if you are a man or a woman. THE ONE YOU LOVE JUST CALLED YOU A WASTE OF FLESH!!!! What is it you do not undertand? She just belittled and degraded you and you ask if you should brush it off? That depends, do you want to spend your life with someone who thinks that way about you?

Answer 5

Do not brush it off. You are allegedly the man she has decided to love and cherish. These kinds of terms do not reflect this, do they? Before you decide to go ahead and make the commitment to her, I strongly suggest that you and she establish firm ground rules as to what is acceptable language in any disagreement.
If both of you cannot agree to civil discourse, regardless of the heat of a moment, your relationship is doomed.

Answer 6

You should tell her that you don't appreciate the name calling and would rather talk out your disagreements like two adult rather than resort to name calling like a couple of two year olds. Yes you have the right to be offended. that wasn't a very nice thing to say.

Answer 7

Mr. Chivalry says, "Man or woman, that is a disrespectful thing to say to someone. God created all of us, and He is the only judge. No one is better than anyone, and I believe she said that out of anger. Talk to her. Find out her reason for saying such a thing. If she didn't mean it, she'll apologize. Why would she say that about the person she's about to marry? Think about it. Just talk to her. You'll have to do a lot of that when you two get married. I know this from experience."

Mr. Chivalry has spoken.

Answer 8

He offended you by calling you names that he has had in his mind for awhile. I don't care what your disagreement was. He is abusive and a jerk. Dump him now. Unless you want a life of being abused.

Answer 9

Yes you should be offended. I certainly wouldnt call him a fiance anymore

Answer 10

This is a test. Do you think that there will not be disagreements in marriage - it only gets worse.


If you keep her, she will abuse you forever.


If you dump her, you will never have to hear her mouth again.

You decide.