We been married 28 years and I find myself a lot hornier than her. I want to try new things to spice it up. I've talked to her about it but she avoids the questions.
2006-08-07 06:56:52 · 22 answers · asked by dwnaz1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How about trying to inspire her to feel sexier, and more desirable. You could try writing her a long, graphic letter about what you want to do to her, and leave it unfinished, but close with "your turn" and have her write the next section about what she wants you to do to her, then you add the next part about what you want her to do to you, etc. Pass it back and forth....Keep it between you two only. You could also try whispering in her ear about how good it would feel if.....how great she looks when she's doing that.....etc.
She probably has some self --doubt, doubt about how you feel about her, or doubt about what to do. Maybe she feels "dirty"..... Whatever you do, DON"T CRITICIZE HER, or say anything implying she is not enough, not good enough, or anything that would cause her to be insecure. That wall backfire.
Find out what she needs from you. Maybe it has nothing to do with sex. Funny, how so many unfulfilled desires in marriage end up taking their toll on our sex lives.....
Maybe you are just oblivious to her other needs. Women often mistakenly assume that you guys are as intuitive as we are, or emotinally intelligent. This is where women need to put the dots really close together and just spell it out for guys. Ask her to do that for you....let her know you have empathy, and that you care.
HAVE FUN!
2006-08-07 07:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh she bash full about sex. 28 years and still cant talk isn't that cute. Just for the heck of it go buy a cheap chemistry kit put it on the bed. When she ask what this is say it for us to experiment more in the bedroom. As she laughing pull out some adult toys from under the bed.
Have fun
2006-08-07 14:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I supposed you could see a counselor, but I'm guessing she won't want to do that either. You could watch a few 'soft core" porn movies. There are some that are made by women from a women's point of view that shows different things but not too rough. They make them so that women won't feel so squeamish about trying certain things. There are also video/DVD series about lovemaking that looks at it from a therapist's point of view. It's explicit, but it takes time to explain.
Tell her how important this is for you, that you still desire her sexually and just want to make it a little different in bed (don't tell her you want to make it more "exiciting". Her first response will be, "What, I'm not exciting enough for you now??? well to hell with you then" and you'll spend the rest of the night trying to explain what you meant).
2006-08-07 14:02:09 · answer #3 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married 28 years???? She should either be in her sexual prime ..... or starting menopause. Try a private get away and tell her it's all for her "and by the way, we're going to try this" My husband did that for me when he wanted to try a 3-some. He had more than he could keep up with and I got to explore my Bi side. Up to that point I was pretty prudish about anything other than "normal" sex.
2006-08-07 14:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it slow. buy handcuffs but dont tell her. set the mood. do everything you need to do to get her in the mood. the list is too long. you should know your wife really good. so do everythig right. get her really horny. then bring out the handcuffs. she wont say no. few weeks later do the same and bring a new toy or xxx video that both of you can watch. if you like anything in the video which you want to try with your wife then just say nicely you want try that. if you did everything right she wont say no. fullproof. stop reading this and start planning. GO!
2006-08-07 14:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by delmore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you go to an adult store and buy a toy that you can share together, you can surprise her the next time you are in bed, my boyfriend did this and it was great and like your wife I felt uncomfortable when he had mentioned it so I avoided the questions, Im glad he took the initiative
2006-08-07 14:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by michele c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting some COUPLES ORIENTED books and films. (Trust me, if you get 'striaght porn' it is going to make her resistant, not interested.) Get something high end like the Joy of Sex books or some of the ROMANTIC films from Good Vibrations. Ask her to pick something SHE'D like to try. And stop thinking so much about your own 'hornier' state and start thinking more about how to please her and make her happy. If your wife is happy, then good things happen to you. If she isn't, then no amount of 'hounding' her will make her WANT to make you happy. Get it, greedy?
2006-08-07 14:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it is movie night and order a porn. Start it and make her watch it for at least 5-10 minutes- She'll be ready to try almost anything.
Guaranteed!!
2006-08-07 14:11:50 · answer #8 · answered by pink30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How rude Tim. Anyways my husband wants to know too :) Please let him know what you find out...lol for real though
Actually he is like a 13 yr old always squeezing me and patting my bottom just little 13 yr old thing you know.. So I wish he would stop, nothing like making love to a 13 yr old...GOOD LUCK
2006-08-07 14:01:43 · answer #9 · answered by bobsdidi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its good that u still love ur wife and still trying to win her love.i would suggest u to make her realise that how much u love her.make her notice that how much u do things for her which most of other hubs dont do for their wiwes.once she realises she would reward u.i must tell u that ur wife is really very lucky.BEST OF LUCK.
2006-08-07 14:09:10 · answer #10 · answered by DJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋