2006-08-07 06:52:52 · 14 answers · asked by marigen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. You may be headed for a lifetime of pain and suffering.
2006-08-07 06:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. October 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he can't stop and needs outside help or maybe he just doesn't respect your feelings on the matter. Helping someone who can't stop drinking is a lifetime project and sometimes they never learn to stop at all in fact they just get worse with time. Are you willing to give away your whole life hoping things will be different? If you aren't find a new love as there are surely more fish in the sea. Sober ones who will respect you and place your feelings before their own. Think about this for a moment. Is this the person you could spent the rest of your life with in a room without anything other than yourselves? Would you spend forever just talking with each other or will it be him drinking and you sitting alone in the corner?
2006-08-07 14:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by dafgoat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like being lied to, and broken promises really get you cranked up in love with him, and you don't mind him spending money on booze, and being around someone who is stubborn, you should just keep doing what you've been doing. No problem from here.
On the other hand, if you DON'T like all that s___, you need to do what everyone who's ever been close to an alcoholic needs to do. You say, "I love you but your behavior stinks, it is frustrating to me, it is disrespectful of me, and if you drink again, hit the road toad." Love is a choice and you have a decision to make.
2006-08-07 14:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My knee-jerk reaction is this: If he's broken that promise then he will break it (and many more) again...so it's time to leave.
But, if there is value in his life, then you may want to start taking him to AA meetings. Make an appointment with his physician so the doc can explain the horrific things that alcohol will do to his body. Supply him the documents of how expensive his life-style will be if he continues drinking. Show the costs of not only purchasing drinks, but the lawyer's fees, the jail time, the cost of court-mandated counseling, and the lack of job opportunities. And don't forget to include the cost of losing you!
2006-08-07 14:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by kaylora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to break keep promises with bad habits its not totally his fault. If hes not violent towards you when drinking maybe have him drink but maybe less if he has a problem he has to accept and face it himself cuz hes the only one that can change him. If the drinking is ruinning your relationship and hes abusive don't ever put up with it ever tell him get help or your done, cuz eventually any love you had with him will die with such abuse no one in this world deserves to live there life that way never!
2006-08-07 13:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by wildrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am in the same boat. Except I am married to him! The only advice I can give you is to decide how much he means to you and whether its worth it. If he is abusive (physically or mentally) when he is drinking.. GET OUT!! My man is just goofy when he drinks.
There is a root cause to drinking, until he deals with that, he wont be able to quit. If you intend to be with him long term.. seek consuling for your self. he needs to go as well.. dont nag or push him, but help him find another outlet for what ever is causing his problem..
good luck
oh and you making him promise to quit drinking is NOT going to help. he has to want to quit.
2006-08-07 14:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by blueeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make him take promises. Learn to communicate with him to understand his concerns and problems. Some people drink to avoid facing issues, some others drink to be able to talk what they'd have avoided when they're more sober. Some others....
Well, just find out.
2006-08-07 14:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by Timeless - watcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alchoholics annonymous is an excellent support, talk to him and suggest he go along. There is not the stigma these days. This way he can show you he is truly serious about stopping. Otherwise life with him is going to be tough,,,,,,,,,
2006-08-07 14:00:36 · answer #8 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he drink incisively? Either way he may have a problem,if
he is lieing about doing it. In any case,there is nothing you can do. He has gotta want to stop.
2006-08-07 13:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut him lose. Love is not enough. You have to love the right person that can love you back IN A HEALTHY WAY.
He is not.
2006-08-07 14:05:18 · answer #10 · answered by elnyka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋