if you found out that you were going to have a?

Question

severly retarded and disabled child-- would you get an abortion?

to all the people who said yes they would keep the child (good for you) --but would you expect the government to pay for care and education for this child-

Answer 1

I hate to be brutal but yes without a doubt I dont think many people would admit to it

Answer 2

I wouldn't have an abortion. A child is a child, whether it's "normal" or not. Who knows what goes through a retarded person's head? I've never been there, so I can't say. Maybe they're truly happy people who are completely at peace. :)

Why should I expect the government to pay for my baby? I would support it just like I would a seemingly "normal" child.

Answer 3

I would not abort my child if he or she were to be born disabled. As for "expecting" the state to pay for his or her education, most states do already, its not that people expect them to. Since every person is entitled to an education the state is expected to provide the resources necessary to provide that education. Provided the child attends a public school, if the parents choose to have them in a private school it is there responsibility to pay for it. That means having special education teachers and nurses available at all times for those students. That means providing an education that is relevant to that child. Whether that means teaching him or her to read, or teaching work skills so that when they do graduate they can get a job at a work site that has been developed to serve people with disablities. And regardless of whether you are expecting the state to take care of your child, the fact is that if you have a severely retarded child, once that child grows up the state is expected to take over the health and care of that individual because in most cases the individual person will not be able to make enough money to pay for their own health care and living costs.

Answer 4

Normally every human wishes that she should give birth to a baby with all the organs in grown stage and also the average mental capability! Incase something is wrong somewhere, and noticed after a proper medical check up - the couple of have to decide they want that or not!

In my neighbouthood I have some couples, who have only one child partially retarded and with affection they are bringing up. If they would have thought it would be future burden, they might not be having the one that hthey have now!

They feel that child is a fair child compared to issueless couples!

Answer 5

That's tough. One of my best friends and his wife were poisoned by carbon monoxide one night, from a faulty heater. She was about 3 months along. They were both hospitalized. She was worse. She had been deprived of oxygen for a long time. She eventually recovered. Their Doctor told them the bad news that their baby was affected, and the it would be abnormal. He recommend an abortion. They were Christians, so they refused. They went to another Doctor-same diagnosis. Finally they decided that they would keep the baby, deliver it and do all they could for it. They want to love it as long as they could. The baby turned out normal. She is a beautiful woman with children of her own. This whole story was printed in a magazine about 20 years ago. It will bring tears to your eyes. I just happen to know this family.
My answer is- what would you do if you did abort only to find out that the doctor was wrong?

Answer 6

WOW, what avery personal question....

You know I think this would very much so up to you & your partner... if you believe in a Higher Guide ask for it's guidance.

You know yourself better than ANYONE else on this entire planet. You know what you are capable of & not, so what you should do is not so much ask other people but reach deep within yourself... you know what is best & what you can deal with.

I believe we know all the answers to our questions but seek to much for others approval & is it your life or theirs.

If you need some help... ask yourself this:
1. Can I handle having it?
2. Am I really ok with that?
3. Will this add to my life or will it take anyway from it?
4. Will it bring me & my partner closer? (if this applies)
5. Keeping the child will bring so much joy?

Asking others on this matter is probably gonna make you feel worse... If you believe in God, then you believe in life (or whatever you believe in, most are say God though) that is your gift... you were born with a free will to live and if that child doesn't bring you much joy & if you think you cannot handle it... What kind of life is that then. Some people that keep children because others tell them to & tell them what God thinks (as if, God is VERY PERSONAL & INTIMATELY CONNECTED to each of us, He is different for all of us & understands circumstances... PROOF: Rainbows & Jesus) Just remember to stay true to life... especially your own, it is the only one you will ever have any REAL say so over, it is your gift.

Shall we harp on the Bible, let me gently remind...
Sacrifice is giving back to God.
Lambs & Sons on mountain tops (more than once)...

Have you considered adoption....
Special children need special people...
And believe it or not someone out there maybe waiting for that baby, what a special thing to be part of.

But whatever the choice is (public or private) believe in yourself & stay true. That's what I would do. For me it would depend on the severity of retardation. If it were so bad that this child wouldn't have much of a life & it would take all of mine to sustain it, I would probably abort privately and do what I needed to do. God knows my heart and that's all that matters... not really what other people say & they know that's how I feel. God gave me life, gave me a Redeemer, & I am gonna live to the best of my abilities... Hard choices & all I seek His counsel and sometimes the answers are not as simple as people make them.

Answer 7

Personally, no. Even if I knew that my child had a fatal defect, I would finish out the pregnancy and let things happen naturally. This is a very personal decision to be made by the parents, and I do not condemn those who make different choices about matters like this.

Answer 8

Having lived my whole life with a disability i could not and would not sacrifice another life just to make mine easyer. I have seen many retarded and disabled people live very happy lives. It would be my goal to give my child the best possible live. as my mother did for me.

Answer 9

Of course not! Every child is a blessing from God and if we abort than we are saying we know better than God does.

I don't think you'll find one parent of a disabled child who would say they wish the child was never born.

Answer 10

Goodness gracious!
I hope your life is as perfect as you apparently think it should be.
You'd probably implode otherwise.
What is your problem? Did a fat retarded welfare recipient beat you up in grade school? Are you P.O'd about what you think your taxes pay for? I think there might be a way for you to influence people. If your ideas are good, people will listen, and spread what they've heard, but you may want to look into a different approach.
The bash 'em approach isn't getting you much support.

Answer 11

no. i would have the child and put it up for adoption, that way it has a chance at life. this is especially good if you don't have the resources to take care of it. even if it is disabled, it still should have a chance to live. personally, i would keep it and raise it.