What are some signs that your significant other is cheating?

Question

I have a friend going thru a crisis. She feels he is cheating.. I most def feel he is. she just needs proof , He is a lieing cheat, who doesn't care who he steps on to get what he wants. Any suggestions would be helpful to her... Thanks in advance

Answer 1

46 Clues Your Partner is Having an Affair

Some of these signs of cheating are "tongue in cheek" while others are tell-tale signs that commonly appear with a cheating husband.
1) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)
3) Your cheating husband stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.
4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.
5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.
6)He joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.
7) He buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know.
8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.
9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.
10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.
11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.
12) He becomes "accusatory," asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt.
13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, "Do you think it's possible to love more than one person at a time?"
14) He buys himself new underwear.
15) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.
16) The cheating husband stops wearing her wedding ring.
17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry.
18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.
19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.
20) He fairly suddenly stops having sex with you.
21) He suddenly wants more sex, more often.
22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.
23) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.
24) You find out by accident he took vacation day or personal
time off from work - but supposedly worked on those days.
25) Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.
26) Spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.
27) Has a sudden preoccupation with his appearance.
28) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially after you have gone to bed.
29) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress's house and had to eat the dinner you prepared when he got home.
30) Your husband is away from home, either nights or on trips, more than previously.
31) His clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You see lipstick on your husband's shirt.
32) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.
33) You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that you did not give your spouse.
34) Your husband seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy" and easily moved to anger.
35) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he hears your
voice.
36) He loses attention in the activities in the home.
37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.
38) He has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the
home.
39) He uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.
40) He has a "glow" about him.
41) A typical erratic behavior.
42) He sneaks out of the house.
43) He sleeps with his wallet by the bed
44) He goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.
45) He tells you can get hold of him at a different telephone number.
46) The telltale signs of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question in the first place.
http://womansdivorce.com/signs-of-cheating.html

Answer 2

A lot of people at some point in their lives will suspect their significant other is out running around with another. I know I've done it. I think a lot of the problem is that we think about it so much that it consumes us and a lot of times the other person has done nothing wrong, however there are times when your gut tells you something, and you should listen to it. I'd say some signs to look for when you suspect things are going bad is:

The person in question doesn't answer the phone when called, lets say on a regular basis, for hours at a time.

Has frequent plans that are with someone else other than you, or has a new friend that you've never met, or never heard of that they say they're going out with.

Starts dressing differently, takes more pride in their appearance.

If married, perhaps you notice they are spending more money recently.

They say they are working longer hours, when they really never did before.

They make a lot of excuses as to where they were, or perhaps they give conflicting stories.

They get angry or very defensive when questioned.

Perhaps they walk into another room to make or take a call, which maybe wasn't something they did before.

As soon as they come home (if living together) you notice they hit the shower right away.

Perhaps your sex life changes, example: you suddenly start having less sex than before, or maybe you have less overall intimacy.


Hope some of this help your friend!
Best of Luck

Answer 3

Generally, if her intuition is telling her he is cheating, then he probably is. If she already knows this, then she should not be worrying about whether he is cheating or not or spend time playing the vitcim, what she needs to do is take action. Confront him, tell him what he is doing. Chances are if he has done this through out the whole relationship, he might be a narsasscist. I would really suggest for her sake that if she feels she needs to, she should contact a good divorce attorney, if nothing else just to hear her rights if she wants out of the relationship. She should also get some counseling, he probably won't go but it is a good thing for her to have someone who she can talk to about what is going on and what the next step for her to take in her life is.

Answer 4

Having gone through this myself, it seems that when guys are cheating their behavior changes more than they realize which gives us little clues. These probably waver from one extreme to the other. Being nicer than usual, including bringing gifts, giving more compliments, or trying to have more sex with the one he is cheating on or the opposite extreme - being mean or seeming disinterested and not doing things he once was. Also, he is likely to guard his privacy more... being quiet or leaving the room for certain calls or avoiding questions about where he was or why he took so long doing this or that. There are many little signs, but it has always been my experience that if your intuition is telling you something is going on then it likely is... especially if you (your friend) are a normally trusting and well-balanced person.

If she is reluctant to leave without having hard proof, she really needs to catch him in the act or find some other evidence to back up her gut feeling, which is sad to have to do but even worse to be constantly lied to and strung along. Check his phone records (or his phone) for unusual numbers or calling times, put a keylogger on the computer to see who and what he is writing or talking to, or she can always follow him discreetly. I hate to say all of this because I like my privacy as much as anyone, but I've been there and it sucks.

Best wishes to her and good luck helping her uncover the truth.

Answer 5

Changes in behavior is the best way to know. Women do have intuition too, but we also have way more emotional hormones. I would go with the behavioral changes. Like SOME of the ones people have already listed. You just need to make sure it is him that is cheating and not you that wants out and is looking for an excuse. If you don't have the proof then you need it first before you accuse him.

Answer 6

First of all I know that the FRIEND is you so quit trippin its ok. If he is a lying cheat then you answered the question. Proof is when he comes home after a days work and smell like soap thats a clue. If he jumps right in the shower before givin you a kiss hey another sign. When he gets home try to f u c k the he ll outta him if it dont get up then another clue he already emptied the tank for the night. Women have intuition and when we feel somethin is wrong then most likely it is. Open your eyes!!!

Answer 7

I had a husband that cheated on me and both times I knew they tend to talk about the person sometimes or a family member like a mom or show up with things you never seen before gifts. Also get phone calls or sometimes they tend to meet at the same time on a certain day like every tuesday. He might talk bad to you and nice about this person if you knew them. But make sure you know for sure hes cheating you know him more then anyone cuz being wrong hurts also I am remarried and my new husband is always accusing me of cheating but I am 100% faithful. Good luck to your friend!

Answer 8

Why is she with him then? Doesn't she feel she deserves better? Why does she need "proof" to leave him? If she doesn't feel she can trust him, why stick around?
Tell her that it is so much cooler to be with a guy she feels like bragging about, one who she feels compelled to tell everyone how great he is.....
If all she has to share are complaints and dissatisfaction, she is a fool for not realizing that she is telling everyone that HER judgment in men SUCKS.....
You are her friend, but if you criticize her, or him to her, it may backfire. Just tell her how you feel ONCE. DON"T say anything mean like "HELLO_JESUS CALLED AND HE WANTS HIS CROSS BACK..." even if you fee like it.
Then when she wants to complain again, tell her you don't want to hear it. Refuse to talk about it, feel sorry for her, etc. Gon't give her the payoff that being a professional victim is ok.
Tell her that you would really rather enjoy hearing about how great this or that guy is, and you don't envy her current situation.
Take care!

Answer 9

It is usually a change in behavior. Because of the outside sex, the interest in sex drops to nothing.
Suddenly there are more reasons not to come home. More work, friends one has to go out with. But mainly changes.
Few people have the ability to behave exactly as they did before. THAT'S the signal!
Paranoia on your friend's part does not necessarily point to infidelity on her spouses part. Is she the jealous type? Because that is often the sole reason to suspect.

Answer 10

Well there are ALWAYS signs.

Excessive showering... copping an attitude when she questions him.

She can check mileage and cell phone records... email etc.

Sounds like you're mind is already made up about him. You need to be a little careful about that. I'd explain WHY but that would be another question.