my wife asks me to make a private room for her which she can spend her time alone in that room, doing what she likes (reading, meditate or i don't know...). It is for her privacy, she said. I don't agree with her. Please advise....
2006-08-07 06:20:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's hard to say. If she is a stay-at-home mom with children, she might need a place to be alone to unwind. It does seem odd that she's not more forthcoming about what she wants to do.
2006-08-07 06:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hummmm. I understand what your wife is asking for. I know you think it is strange, she wants time away from the family. I have days I would love to have a room to lock myself in and get away from the world. The stress of children, house work, bills, etc. Its a lot to deal with. I am not sure of your situation. I do not know if you have children, and how old, but if you do, let the woman have her privacy. I would suggest a room the two of you can share, if you have the means. She can use it when she needs that "alone time" and you can put a Big Screen TV in the room for special games.
I like to go a park to read or I go shopping by myself. Sometimes as a woman we need to find ourselves to deal with everyone else. When I need to be alone, it does not mean I don't love my husband and children, it just means I could really hurt them if I don't recharge my batteries. Good Luck to you. I am sure you both will find a solution this this situation, after all marriage is about compromising
2006-08-07 06:47:23 · answer #2 · answered by skynickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with her. I dont know much of the situation, like does she work outside of the home, do you have children, things like that. But I think that everyone needs a little time to be by themselves. Would you rather go to a bar for some alone time or a room in your home? I think that if you talk with her about why this upsets you, you may come to the realization that you need a room, too.
2006-08-07 06:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by Amy Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you afraid of? Give her a room for some privacy, from time to time my wife asks for a bath alone, without kids knocking, whats wrong with that? If she was gonna screw around on you i doubt it would be in a room that you have built, specially while you are home. Build her the damn room, it may benefit you too.
2006-08-07 06:26:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No shame in it. At least she asked you to do it, instead of demanding it. Some people need a personal space to collect their thoughts and maintain sanity, others can do it by simply going for a drive or a walk by themselves for a few minutes each day.
Just do it. If it seems that she is spending hours on end in there, then you should become concerned.
Other than that, be real. There are much worse things she could ask for...like a divorce.
2006-08-07 06:37:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance has a room set aside for her to do her art in. When we started getting serious about each other she explained to me that she needed this space to be creative. As she explained to me that she would give me my time, watch hockey games and she would have hers painting works of art. There were also comical threats directed towards me and suggestions that it would not be wise for me to bother her while painting, but these proved to be just that as I have gone into her studio and watched her paint and she now enjoys watching hockey with me and even understands some of the rules. Ha! Anyway, I like yourself do not see a problem with our partners having an area where they can veg out if necessary and/or have some quiet time to themselves. We have drove many miles and chatted through many of these. But on some other drives not many words have been spoken and this is fine also as we are in each others presence and just need time to reflect or value our independence of thoughts, even when together. Silence or space does not have to mean disagreements or arguing, but can be a nice respite and people can feel closer at times in moments of silence and reflection.
Good luck on making a space for your wife within your home.
2006-08-07 06:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone deserves some space and privacy it's the same as if you had an office or work space in your home. I think if that's what your wife wants there's nothing wrong with it and the fact that you don't want her to have one makes me think that you might be a little insecure. Maybe you should work on that.
2006-08-07 06:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people need some time alone in order to simply stay sane. I don't think she is asking for much. The only problem would be if she chose to stay in that room all the time and have nothing to do with you.
2006-08-07 06:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i do think everyone needs a little privacy thats for sure, ask her whats up with that, tell her that oput of the blue if she feels like that it makes you wonder if you yourself has something to do with her wanting her own privacy, now if a man asked for that a women would go crazy thats for sure, talk to her and maybe just try top understand her reasoning for it, good luck
2006-08-07 06:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by prettygirl new orleans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she needs her privacy then she needs it. But you have to tell her w/e she does in there can't be a secret marrige is all about honesty and telling the truth. I think she just needs a little time alone everyday where she can be herself without anyone bothering her.
2006-08-07 06:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋