married 4 years, neither of us can say were in love anymore
2006-08-07 06:02:47 · 29 answers · asked by yeah well 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
on a scale l think trust goes first, love second and duty third....once gone it is trust thats the key...it can never really come back..the rest depends how well down the scale you both are...not much help..sorry
2006-08-07 07:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say but going on my own experience and the experience of others I know in the same situation I don't think you really can get love back the same as it once was.
I believe that sometimes nature and our natural feelings has a way of letting us know when something isn't right anymore.
No point in staying in a loveless relationship or in one where you feel you may be wasting many years of your life on in a futile attempt at trying to salvage it. Only you will know within yourself if you want to live like this...but is it fair to your partner to do so?
There's little point to in even remaining in a relationship where the love and feelings are one-sided because that never works in the long-term either.
if you have tried to recapture your love for one another again and its not working out then its time to call it quits and move on and one day you will both find the person you really should be with.
You've gave your marriage a go and it hasn't worked in the way you both hoped, however, not all marriages, just like not all relationships are meant to last. It will of course take time to break any remaining bonds and attachment you have with each other but you can move forward in your life and love.
good luck
2006-08-07 21:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is the love lost? You really have to ask yourself if you just love your spouse or are you in love. If the passion isn't there then evaluate why it isn't. Start making plans to do special things w/your spouse such as dinner dates, if you have kids special time just for the two of you @ home when the kids are sleep. Start acting like a couple again. Try, try, try, until you can't try anymore. You will know when enough is enough.
2006-08-07 13:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. I'm sorry to say. Ive seen this too many times with friends, loved ones, neighbors, etc. and no matter how much effort, time, and /or your heart you put into it you NEVER get it back. Try to face this and then decide what you two should do. Just don't waste years before you see this to be a fact.
2006-08-07 13:51:44 · answer #4 · answered by red-e03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you even want it back? How about your partner? If not, there is really no sense in trying. If you do want to try, go to counseling or get the book "relationship rescue" by Dr. Phil. It is a really good book and will bring up a lot of points that will make you re think your marriage. Good Luck!
2006-08-07 13:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by KIT-KAT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got married for a reason. You must of loved eachother at one point. You should go to marriage counciling. That can not hurt. Then you need to work on why you feel like you are not in love anymore? I would not just give up on your marriage. When you said your vows they are till death do you part. You must try to save your marriage.
2006-08-07 13:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by Wilma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are good that it's not going to come back- especially if you don't like each other. Love is something- I believe that continues to grow and never burns out. Once it does it can't be re-ignited.
Love is not a commodity like say, gas for your car- once its over you just can't pull up to the pump and get a re-fill.
2006-08-07 13:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by ••Mott•• 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not try marrage councilling or some thing like that. If you both still want to be together there must be some hope there. Do exciting things that you used to do when you were younger and first started dating. Seems strange but you never know it might work. Good luck
2006-08-07 13:38:56 · answer #8 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to work that after a time, your relationship changes. The trick is to go with it, you will find that evolution brings new things to the marriage. People who are in love with love always appear to end up going round in circles, starting new relationships over and over, and never getting to find out what they mean.
2006-08-07 13:10:28 · answer #9 · answered by peter b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get a divorce. Life is too short to spend it with someone you don't love anymore. Just stay friends, and let the relationship go.
2006-08-07 13:07:58 · answer #10 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋