When sex outside of marriage and abortion seem to be more "right" than "wrong," what should parents do to protect their children?
2006-08-07 06:01:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When my son is exposed to these so-called "right" situations, I just explain to him what our family's morals and values are, and why these things are wrong. At his age (almost 5), it's very easy for him to understand and accept, and I'm sure it will get harder, but when he's older he'll have to make his own decisions, and I just hope I will have laid the right ground work for him to make what WE believe are the right decisions. Of course, at his age, he has not been exposed to hardly any of the big controversial things, thank God!
2006-08-07 06:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by sparkleandme4yrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Educate them and instill some type of morals and values in them starting from birth. If you start to program their minds in a positive manner by living your life in a positive way, I feel they will pick up the values of their parents.
Now sometimes a child can be born to addicts and turn out to be more positive in life than children raised in a decent living environment so there are exceptions to the rule.
Other people abortions and sex out of marriage isn't of concern to anyone but that person. What you need to make sure again that you are your children role models not celebrity, society, or whomever can be a outside influence on your child.
Somebody else sexual decisions and abortion decisions shouldn't be the role model for your child you again should be.
2006-08-07 13:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The important thing is to be consistent, decide where you stand on these issues and be firm and honest in telling your children your beliefs. Try not to change your opinion too often or it will seem that you are uncertain and unreliable in your advice, but don't be too firm and come down like a ton of bricks from on high, or in the future your children may be too afraid of your opinion to come to you when they need advice.
Patience, consistency and the ability to to remain in control when your fear for your children makes you want to yell or go to extremes are all important with handling delicate issues like sexuality and morals. When you talk with them try not to make them feel ashamed as a way of stopping certain behaviour, stress the benefits and disadvantages; good health, options for the future, the financial and social difficulty of raising children.
You can't force your children to make the right choices, but you can give them the support and information they need to help them decide when the time comes.
You may find the website below useful, it has many things to do to help develop the relationship between parent and child, and a long section on 'Raising good kids' that discusses some ways to communicate with your child.
2006-08-07 13:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by Fenrir Winterwolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never lied to my kids, (other then Santa etc...)....when sex was asked about you were told the truth, no birds or bees and flower bull sh*t....I believe that if you tell them straight up what its all about they are more open to make better decisions on the matter. My daughter (15) does not want to have sex until she is married. She is against drugs and alcohol as well. Parents should be more honest and up front with there kids. Knowledge is power!
2006-08-07 13:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gotta teach your kids morals, values, and self respect. that way, no matter what society starts leaning towards, or negative things that get thrown at them, they will be willing and able to make good decisions. what's important is teaching a child confidence in him or herself; to feel supported, loved, no matter what mistake they make. also, that there are consequences to any action or inaction in the world, and that it is important to make informed decisions. u can't tell them what to do because they need to understand WHY they can or can't do it. make sure to communicate w/ them daily and be open to anything they ask you about. well, when they get older anyways... because curiosity killed the cat, so kids want to learn more and more. learning is great, but being exposed to nasty, negative things is bad. therefore, teach them to choose wisely, concentrate on the positive things they can do to make themselves and others happy in a good way, not self indulgence, but love and happiness and support and feeling safe... and then let them go. u have to trust them to do the right thing...if u concentrate on the positive, if they fall sometimes, they will be able to pick themselves up w/ strength and convictions to learn from their mistakes. if u concentrate on the negative, u will feel vindicated, but at the expense of ur child and feelings of shame, and they will hide from you and feel guilty.
2006-08-07 13:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate. The only way to get through to your child is to explain. Tell them why. Give them both sides and ask their opinion. Children aren't as naive as we think sometimes.
2006-08-07 13:09:14 · answer #6 · answered by hellrazor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray! The more you sit down and talk with your kids and expose them to good resources you stand a better chance.
2006-08-07 13:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by DQuan 7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be firm about your beliefs witht hem, and hopefully they can make good decisions later in life. teach them that, just because its not against the law that its ok.
2006-08-07 13:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ever see those toddlers in the store that are on a leash? well it's time to put our teenager on an even shorter leash.
2006-08-07 13:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Ms Berry Picker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the "right" that makes killing an unborn baby ok?
2006-08-07 13:05:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋