I am wondering if my boyfriend still loves his exwife, is there any way i can tell....weve been together almost a year and been friends for about 7 years now...weve been really close but yet i am worried that he might go back to her...he recently proposed to me...and of course i said yes because I LOVE HIM but how do i know for sure if he truely loves me
2006-08-07 05:41:23 · 9 answers · asked by Jennifer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are the one being insecure, not him.
He wants to get married to you and forget about the past, but sadly, you are the only one bringing up the past.
You have to learn to live with his past and stop dwelling on it. You cannot change it and obsessing about it is not going to do you any good.
No man ask someone to marry them if they don;t love the other person. Marriage is a serious commitment and the ultimate testament of love, if you want more than that then you are impossible to please and being irrational.
Good luck
PS/ If he has kids with his ex then they will always be part of each other lives for the sake of the children, You cannot change that so deal withit!
2006-08-07 05:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you need a test then you need to re-evaluate your relationship with this man - what is making you insecure? A lot of men have ex-wives but few ever "go back" - especially after starting a new serious commitment. He divorced her for a reason. If it's gotten as far as a proposal, you really need to be beyond this kind of insecurity. Open up an honest dialogue and confront your insecurities - don't do anything stupid like tests or snooping unless you have a real, solid reason to be suspicious. But I would still prefer the honest approach in confrontation. Sneaking around is lonely, and you might regret what you see. Give him an opportunity to ease your fears and be honest with you.
2006-08-07 12:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by Spiked Coffee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He asked you to marry him, right? So, he loves you.
I think that designing a test for a loved one is a disrespectful and insulting thing to do. It means that you don't trust him and are willing to manipulate him. If I discovered a test like that, I'd be so hurt and angry, I might end the relationship.
Why don't you talk to him about your feelings? Just tell him that there's a little doubtful voice in your head that from time to time whispers that he's not completely finished with his former love. It'll be OK, really.
2006-08-07 12:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning this then where is the trust in your relationship has he ever given you any sign that he is still in love with her if no then stop questioning his love for you because if you keep questioing him then you will lose him if your heart says marry him and you truly love him then go for it and let go of all your doubts so you can have a long and happy life together and God Bless
2006-08-07 12:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Heidi M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she is his EXWIFE!! So if he loved her, he'd be with her. Does he talk to her often? Talk abut her often?
He wouldn't have proposed if he didn't love you.
Try to relax and enjoy your relationship. Not having trust will eat you up inside!
2006-08-07 12:49:44 · answer #5 · answered by Nosy news 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if he ASKED YOU TO MARRY HIM, then he must love you. Don't go around testing him, that'll just make him feel like you don't trust him. That may make him want to call off the engagement. He isn't going to go back to her. If he was, why would he WANT to MARRY you? Seriously. Don't be so insecure about it.
2006-08-07 12:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u can always see if hesw ever intrested in anygirls by watching the way he stares at them or see if he flirts with u or dose he ever spend time with u alot
2006-08-07 12:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by Kylie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hook up with someone you meet on yahoo answers to make him jealous.
2006-08-07 12:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question when you said he asked you to marry him...... think about it.
2006-08-07 13:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by Wilma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋