So my girls and I went out this Saturday. One of my friends is seeing this guy who we all thought was kinda creepy. But hey she liked him. So he tagged along on our girls only night out. Anyway when my friend went to the restroom this fool tries to go all out and makes a move on my married azz. I set him straight and tell him to get lost. My girl dumps him but she is soo pissed at me and thinks that I did something to attract his Neanderthal azz! She knows me better but I think she really digged him. Now she is threatening to show pictures from my bachelorett party to my husband! I know if she does that, sh!t will hit the fan and my azz would be toast. What should I do now? Keep quiet and see what happens?
2006-08-07 05:10:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is too hard to decide. Open for voting!
2006-08-09 03:59:18 · update #1
Well, I think that she should trust you if you are her friend. I think that maybe it hurt her feelings thinking that her new bf would hit on you. It may be an insecurity thing and now she is lashing out at you because she doesn't know what else to do. And on the picture thing, if she would even threaten to do that, it doesn't sound like she is someone you can really trust. Those pictures are private and she should never tell you she is going to show them to your husband. You should explain to her in no uncertain terms that if she were to do that, you would no longer be able to continue your friendship. If your friendship is valuable to her, then she will get over all of this. I don't know if I would give your husband a heads up or not though, because then if she doesn't show them to him, it may still make him think that something went on there that you are scared he will find out about. But definitely try to have a talk with this girl. Don't let her try to ruin your life over her jealousy.
2006-08-07 05:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by lilcountrygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a talk with her....the problem is that her ego is bruised and it hurts. Ask her why she would be angry with you when he approached you and you told him to get lost? Tell her she would have a reason to be angry with YOU if it were you that started it, but that is not the case. As far as your bachlorette party, don't know what you did but it sounds like you are not proud of your actions or you wouldn't be worried of your husband finding out. The only way to solve this problem of blackmail is to tell your husband, otherwise someone is bound to cause trouble for you in the future. I would not want that hanging over my head, who knows maybe he had a good time at his bachelor party and there are things that you don't know either. Sounds like you are pretty straightforward and to the point when asking this question, you shouldn't have a problem.
2006-08-07 12:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a big problem, but obviously you know what really happened, and even though pictures or good sources to get other back, it may prove too much. If your man knows truth and you tell him what happened or he finds out then he will either believe it or he will act as if he does not care. But you do you what you feel you have to. Your friend does not sound like a very good one.
2006-08-07 12:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the truth is going to come out it would be better for your husband to hear it from you that from an outsider. Explain to him what happened and how you handled things and what has happened from there.I'm sure he did some things on his bachelor party night also, everyone does. It's their last night of freedom in their eyes. Have faith in your relationship.
2006-08-07 12:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by crazy puppy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you would never do anything to hurt her. You did nothing wrong with this creep. If she wants to ruin a great friendship over this creep, tell her to go ahead.
I am sure she won't show those pictures to your husband. Don't trust her though. If you remain friends, get those pics from her and destroy them.
2006-08-07 12:42:02 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is threatening you over a guy she barely knew then she was never a real friend any way. i say just warn your husband and wait to see what she does. it may be nothing but you never know so it is better to be safe than sorry.
2006-08-07 12:18:28 · answer #6 · answered by katie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's bluffing. Just act like you dont care if she shows him.I wouldnt be her friend anymore if shes into blackmailing.Her fault anyway for letting him come along!! If she did show him, im sure he'd get over it.
2006-08-08 18:04:44 · answer #7 · answered by itsallover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a new man and pay him to get the pictures back. She a big ***** for threatening you. After you get them back you should tell her to **** off.
2006-08-07 12:20:06 · answer #8 · answered by Annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell her that if she did thta then their would be no way you could friends and that party was totally private
2006-08-07 12:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kitty,,kaye<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is see what happens good luck
2006-08-07 12:29:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋