orgsam problem?

Question

i m married since 6 months,n due to lack of sex eduction i still havent reached orgsam yet.my husband too dont have much knowledge abt how to intercourse.usually we spend time for foreplay and he gets exicted n he rubs penis near thighs or sometimes near vagina and ejuclates on stomach.but till today i havent got satisfied yet and to get satisfication i mastrubate and feels guilty.i really dont know how to insert penis in vagina..as once we tried and it pained a lot so i m afraid now to insert.pls help me..do both partners need to move bodies to insert penis? or just man can do by himself moving his parts? pls help me i m very frastruted due to this

Answer 1

You need to be lubricated to insert the penus. And as for having an orgasm I suggest plenty of practice in hitting the right spot(everyone needs practice) and I find it easier to reach orgasm with me on top.

Answer 2

When I heard the part about releasing it on your stomach, I thought, some one has been watching too many of those flicks with the adults only rating. But then, they would often have shown how to do it.

It may hurt a lot, especially at first, particularly if you have a good, solid hymen. But it will especially hurt if you are afraid and won't open up. With my first wife, her mother had scared her so badly that she was holding herself so tightly that I could scarsely get in. Then, in a fortunate moment, she sneezed (we were at a cabin in the woods with the windows open) and I practically fell in. Suddenly she became the hot and hearty participant because after she let me break through everything else felt wonderful (for both of us). Your fear might be sabotaging the matter. Still, sex is often with pain, and sometimes pain is a very short distance away from great pleasure. Try this with your husband, have him make a few moves one way, then move slightly, perhaps change angles a little, and make a few more like it from there. Then tell him which is better. Keep slowly, consistently, exploring to see what feels good for you and try to strike a balance with what feels good for him.

Don't feel guilty for not knowing. They really don't teach this in school. Discovering is the fun part of marriage. Doors shut, curtains down, just enough light to see what's happening, maybe some mood music (perhaps with a good steady beat to inspire you two), undress each other and enjoy exploring each other. Relax. After you get the knack of it, then you can do the acrobatic or adventurous stuff, but for now, flush the guilt, there is no need to guilt. If you have to 'do it yourself' do it while he is watching--it might give him ideas as to what works with you. Then let him try out some of his new-found knowledge on you. Relax. You'll figure it out with practice. Did I say relax?

Answer 3

If you are a virgin (no penis has ever penetrated your vagina), the first time may be a little uncomfortable but it will pass in an instant. Lay on your back and allow your husband to stimulate you (arouse you) by licking you in the area just above the vagina. This will hopefully allow you to become moistended inside the vagina. Then spread your legs wide and allow him to slowly insert his penis into the vagina. The vagina is the opening just under the area you pee from and before the area you poop from. He should then begin to move his penis in and out slowly at first and then quicker hopefully breaking the virginal tissue (the hymen) which covers the cervix deep inside the vaginal canal. After this you may have a little soreness for a day or so but it wil begin to feel good to you each time after. Foreplay, oral sex, kissing rubbing against each other, making each other feel good is important before actually having sexual intercourse. It gets you both in the mood and stimulates the body fluids you need for a good sexual experience.

Answer 4

Don't feel guilty about masturbating and why not teach him to masturbate you too?

As for intercourse. The first time often hurts as the hymen has to be brocken/stretched. You may have already done this when the two of you tried the first time so next time may be better. Anyway to make things better buy and use some KY jelly to really lubricate your entrance and his penis before trying for penetration. As for an easy position to use, have him lie behind you while you are on your side with your knees drawn up. Guide his penis to your vagina opening and he can thrust easily and gently into you. This is better than man on top as you are not pinned down if you want to move away. Obviouly unless pregnancy is wanted do use a condom!

Answer 5

Well I will try my best-Yes the first time you have sex if you are a virgin it will hurt-some skin will be broken-therefore pain!! Don't feel guilty-talk a lot-you can lay on your back and let him guide it in place-relax-and keep up the good work and you both will be sure to be in for a lot of pleasure! The first time can hurt lots-but now enjoy each other! If you are still having problems go see your family Doctor!!!!

Answer 6

you should follow this position during making love > you lay down of backs. yours will raise his legs and you leave him maintains them made kneel at the end of his body and supporting the other arm in the floor. He will penetrate, dominate and would have the control. The position allows to vary the sense of the penetration and the opening of the legs. The faces cannot approach and the hands little can do in this position, which generates an anxiety extremely exciting: both bodies run together the race to arrive at orgasm and reflect in the other the most varied gestures.
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The pair is standing, undresses and faced. It climbs to her companion up shoulders and embraces her body with the legs. The total hug is part of a passional and creative sex, where the corporal contact is very complete. The rate of the sex can be of two ways: of above downwards or back for ahead, depending on the intensity of pleasure that both experiment with each option.

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The pair is standing, undresses and faced. It climbs to her companion up shoulders and embraces her body with the legs. The total hug is part of a passional and creative sex, where the corporal contact is very complete. The rate of the sex can be of two ways: of above downwards or back for ahead, depending on the intensity of pleasure that both experiment with each option.

Answer 7

This is a common problem faced in India by the newly married couples. Its very good that you go for fore play but the main thing is that the real intercourse is only when the male enters the penis in the vagina of the lady. this is some what painful in virgins initially but soon in second or third round it will be cleared no pain only enjoyments. So let your husband enters you and bear some pain. ask him to enter slowly as this is painful for him also. kuch panr ke liye kuch sehna bhi padega. you may contact with your husband for detials.

Answer 8

Sounds to me like you were a virgin when you married. What you need is for him to try some oral on you. Also the wetter you are the less it will hurt. Your husband needs to work on making you happy. And don't feel guilty about masterbation. It's normal. He needs to be patient with you. Sex should be painful if done right. Buy some books. They have helped me. Kamasutra is most helpful with positions. Try some flavored oils as well to keep you lubed up.

Answer 9

To engage in sexual intercourse, the erect penis is inserted into the vagina and one or both of the partners move their hips to move the penis backward and forward inside the vagina to cause friction, typically without fully removing the penis. In this way, they stimulate themselves and each other, often continuing until orgasm and ejaculation are achieved.

Answer 10

Sex a short lesson.Visa-esa on who is playing with who. reads like he is playing with his penis too much. the both of you really need to be in the mood, don't make sex a chore. Don't jump into it. Relax, allow him to relax you further. I start with subtle kissing,slowly working my way down, nibble behind your ear,going to the neck(no hickey's)but lickies,kissing to breasts,nibble on nipples(no biting)kiss, and lick my way down-down to your sweet spot. be relaxed. Have your hand on his genitalia(grow your nails)
by then you should be well aroused(naturally wet)if it pains for him to insert he may be doing something wrong. If you haven't had sex as of yet this will naturally hurt a little,so have him go very slow. You should not have to guide him in,he knows how to turn the knob. This is my technique. others will vary.

Answer 11

Well lets see the one real way to have orgasm thats almost a sure shot is by clitoral stimulation, if you are having problems with inserting the penis you may need some extra lubrication besides your natural lube, try ky jelly. and once you solve that problem you may want to try getting on top.