what would you choose for your wake........?

Question

would you want everyone moping around crying and wailing and feeling utterly depressed at your passing, or would you want one massive, jolly, karaoke ish knees up???

Answer 1

i have really thought this over and really i want to be remembered, so something completley stupid comes to mind.

my ashes are put into paint balls and everyone goes and shoots each other,either that or everyone painst them selves blue and goes partying in town

Answer 2

Actually, I really don't want anyone doing anything...no wake, no funeral ... why? Well, I have a huge problem with these things and personally I find them extremely morbid on one hand and a total hypocritical gab fest on the other, by some attendees.

I have told my family that I want none of this although my husband insists this ceremony and everything tagged on with it is to help those left behind put closure to the death and to pay their respects to the dead and their family. Understandable of course, but not the way it is done. Of course I have Irish decent and things actually were done a bit differently in my family for such things (but there was no dancing around the coffin or anything) :)

I have certain people in my life whom I would prefer not to have to go through such a thing...and I certainly don't want people who barely associated with me or those whom I had differences that just couldn't be forgotten by them, coming along and saying wonderful things about me when in life they could care less whether I lived or died :)

If they gossiped and were jerks while I lived, they can remain gossipers and jerks when I die...no exceptions. Therefore, to forgo this kind of meeting of all my "morners" I figure being cremated, placed in a Tim Hortons coffee can, flown over to Hawaii and scattered on a remote Island into the wind to land where ever...is perfect for me and cheap for my family.

I can miss the dead and morn their passing on my own and much prefer this to being in the thick of things and really being depressed. At least on my own I remember the good things and can take the time to "talk" to them at my leisure. Of course I express condolences through calls and/or cards and flowers if the families are of this type of thing, or donations to a charity that they or their loved one chose...but otherwise I am perfectly fine doing things my way. :) I guess that makes me greedy. Oh well.

Answer 3

I would want the happy thing, but unfortunately, no matter what, it would still have the sadness mixed in. People don't deal with death well, and even if you know the person is in a better place & out of pain, you know you will never see them again here on earth - to talk with, go do things together, just hang out - and that hurts. I think it's cool when people pre-plan their funeral to try to keep the sadness to a minimum. Laughing, even through the tears, helps us heal faster. It's the best last gift you can leave your family & friends with.

Answer 4

I guess it depends on your point of view. If they are crying etc then it proves they love you or they wouldn't be there but if they are have a good old knees up then how do you know they are not just there for a free party. I personally would like to see a bit of respect with a sense of humour and honesty. But the one important thing is NO Trouble.

Answer 5

I'd like jolly. It's only in certain cultures that people weep and wail anyway. The Chinese are so sure the dead are going to a better place, that they give them a big happy send-off. I'd hate money to be wasted on flowers - I'd like a charity donation.

Answer 6

Good question. I'm not sure really what I want I think it all depends on how you pass. If it's because someone is old and sick then yeah i've lived my life so I want a celebration at the end of it. Now if I passed due to all the other ways you can die these days then I want people to not ball out cry but cry bcause they never got to say goodbye to me.

Answer 7

in israel we sit sheva,seven days on the floor "on matress"we are not allowed to eat meat ,the men cant shave for 1month.we talk about the life of the person that has died.as for the funeral ,we are not put into coffins.we get mummified and are buried in a deep hole which is then covered with slabs of concrete.after a month we put the head stone at the grave site.also in the seven days of sheva,we are not allowed to bath,you wear the funeral garb which must be torn on the side..we dont tear the garment usualy the rabbi cuts the garment.from mikhal in israel.

Answer 8

I want George Strait's " My Life's Been Grand " played and I want everyone in red or yellow and everyone can laugh about some stupid story of how I did this or that.
Life should be celebrated and just because I am dead does not mean that there are no memories.

Answer 9

I'd like for there to be lots of great food, wine and beer and then for everyone to have a good time, being together. Maybe tell stories, or just have a laugh and take comfort in each other's company.

Answer 10

Its hard when you first lose someone.I just lost my best friend of 38 yrs. So, I tried not to bring up too much tears-its the domino effect. But watching a video to the person favorite songs and things that occurred in her life and then giving people the opportunity to come on and speak about their best memories..Then eat ,drink & be merry. She loved dancing so in her honor.. I went out and danced up a storm. imaging her across from me cheering me on.

Answer 11

I would like to know that I made a difference in people's lives. And I wouldn't want the hysteria or the jokes, just a dignified celebration of life.