My husband completely surprised me when he cheated. I thought we had a solid marriage. He swears he'll never do it again if I forgive him. Will he do it again, even though at this moment he might be sincere?
2006-08-07 04:41:54 · 38 answers · asked by ptimpe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know him well enough to answer this question yourself. He may never do it again, but can you ever trust him again? That is the bigger question. You two should think about counseling, something like this is difficult to get past without help. Best wishes.
2006-08-07 04:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you find out that he cheated? If he told you himself maybe he won't do it again. But if you found out some other way he's probably only sorry he got caught and will just be more careful next time. He might even take your forgiveness as permission to do it again. Also consider whether or not he would forgive you for doing the same thing.
2006-08-07 04:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by DJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he will cheat again if he has that opportunity. I saw my wife have 3 affairs, 1 was with a strong emotional attachment. I have given her this 1 last chance only because my kids are young, but I will never tolerate 1 more affair of any kind, sexual, emotional or 1 night stand. I should have ran as fast as I could after the first one.
2006-08-07 05:30:18 · answer #3 · answered by paulsexpress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the more important things you have to ask yourself is can you forgive him? and can you ever reestablish trust? I know I couldn't - and didn't with my ex husband. My current husband knows that I feel that way and that under no circumstances would I forgive cheating - even a one night stand. Sorry - but my self esteem is just too strong to be willing to settle for being treated that way!
2006-08-07 04:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I married to my wife, meaning No reason for me to lie, cheating, what ever it is. Marriage is a seriously made for two of us.
I can't see why he cheated on you first place?????? I know he knew it was wrong!! I know that his heart beeat was pounding so hard that he really knows that if he screw this up... it over. and He did it anyway.
Don't forgive him at all, He knew what he doing is wrong period. If you forgive him he will do it again. maybe no, but the point is that he knew... Asked him if he knew it was wrong?? you Knew?? If he said yes I knew I was wrong. Bingo there your answer.
I can't ever think or try to cheat on my wife why??? becasue we have plm??? because Sex plm??? or whatever it is, we always talk about it. I know cheat is not the answer. He did it anway, He know he doing was wronggggg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.
I do hope you see what I mean. My wife even told me once you cheated it over. because you know cheat is wrong you know what it like if you cheat it over. you know no matter what if you choose to cheat then you should of though about that before. But again you blew it. That what My wife said and I totally agree with her. Reason I married her I love her and want make it work and make it last of a lifetime. smiling.
Again just asked him you knew that cheat is wrong and you did it anway right? and after you did and again you felt guilty from the first you knew before you though about cheating and then after that you knew first and last.
If he said "then, boom it over" if he said "NO?" then you can say well I know you knew that cheating on me knew that it will end this marriage?? If he said yes then boom it over.
If a woman standing in my office naked and she open her legs and want me to bang her???you know what I would do first thing?? check her out by looking that all and then called my wif eand tell her guess what nake woman and i look everything on this woman... and I telling you now because I really loved you so much and i rather you and your body than this woman. That woman will say wow, he truly think about his wife... and knowing that she can't use blackmail on me or anything on me. That how much I love my wfie and he didn't do that. shame on him.
Sorry blah balh... took my time to explain.. hope that helps.
2006-08-07 04:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mostly likely once a cheater always a cheater i am very sorry to say but i have known alot of guys that cheat and even though they say that they won't do it again it is often times a lie even though they might mean it at that moment.
2006-08-07 04:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by dolphinluvr47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does depend on the reason. but the reason can be worse than the act itself. He may have had very strong feelings for the other person. and in that case my cheat with her again. or he may just have needed something he wasn't getting at home. which he may do it again. or he may just be like a dog around abitch in heat, in which case he'll do it again....
So maybe it doesn't depend on the reason...He just might do it again!
2006-08-07 04:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by Em W. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a chance he may not do it again since you have a solid marriage. Mine did it again but that does not mean all other men will.
If you love him, why not try giving him another chance? Good luck to you.
2006-08-07 04:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful! I'm a boy who cheated on my girl of 3 years, so, watch him! I definently won't do it again! Watch who he'z lookin at. If he keeps callin you Baby or Boo, that means he may have forgotten your name! Watch his actions, see if he changes. And keep that n*gga in check! Tell him, if you wanna stay wit me, you better act like it!
Or, you can just get him back! PayBack! LoL!
Anything else? I'm the Date Doctor! LoL!
See Ya,
Jwill J. Jwheezy
2006-08-07 04:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jwill J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from personal life lesson once a cheater always a cheater no question been there done that married 8 years after she cheated worried that she still was and suprise she was for three years WOW run away dont look back sorry babe!
2006-08-07 04:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋