My friend is in a situation..?

Question

She told me that suicide is her second option. She wants to do something to herself ( her body) that will make her parents feel sorry and miserable. I tried helping but all what came on my mind was suicidal thoughts.. she wants injury but easy and fast pain.. help please she's driving me nuts

thanks for all your enthusiasm but i'm serious here, she wants to hurt herself badly and i want to help her. So if you have any ideas you are most welcome to answer.

OK ANSWER THIS QUESTION HERE:

HOW CAN SHE BADLY INJURE HERSELF?


for ***** sake!! Don't give me your counselling crap, we're talking pain here and i'm running out of time!!

Answer 1

she needs to me institutionallized and watched. tell her parents and make her parents take her to the hospital. she needs medical attention.

Answer 2

If she is attempting to punish them through maiming herself, does she realize that one day she will be free of her family and will have to live with whatever she decides?

There are easier ways to punish without harm to herself, i.e., getting the courts to give her independent status wherein they are not responsible for her anymore.

Is she old enough to work? Can she support herself? She can inquire to local churches and see if they have some sort of program to allow her to find lodging away from home.

Many times, when a parent finds that their child no longer needs them, it can be punishment enough.

Maiming herself shows a very juvenile approach to a situation. Suicide, is usually misunderstood. When people kill themselves to get back at others, there is usually counseling that is prescribed for the survivors (parents especially). The first thing the counselor tells the parents is that it is not your fault, that their child had some screw loose or was too weak to deal with the problems in life (nature always weeds out the week and injured). Therefore, although they might feel some remorse, the people you kill yourself to hurt, never really hurt as much as you'd hope.

What a waste of resolve. I've seen it too many times, where kids "know" that they are sticking it to the parents and the parents, having lived this long, cope and get beyond it, but the kid is dead and accomplished nothing for their life.

Tell her to reconsider, and think of solutions where she comes out on top if she is truly trying to make "them" pay. Think along the lines of getting out from under their roof or getting counseling wherein she can confidentially let the counselor know what "they" are doing that irks her so that "they" can get "their" mental agendas repaired.

Killing herself accomplishes nothing, she'll never know what she could have accomplished and she'll be the only one "really" hurt.

If necessary, she can suggest to her parents that she is considering suicide in order to get into the counseling situation. But hurting herself to effect hurt in them - is really stupid.

If you suggest this and she turns it down, but is still interested in hurting herself, you have no choice but to let her parents know what is on your friend's mind. If you believe she is serious, let someone know immediately.

Answer 3

I know she is driving you nuts, but sounds like you are the only one she can talk to. This isn't much help but let her talk as much as she wants to. Can your parents help you at all? It doesn't sound like her parents are any help. Can she spend a few days with you?

Ask her what you can do to stop her from hurting herself. Tell her you care. If she is still talking to you there is a good chance she will not hurt herself.

Good luck.

Answer 4

You sound like a great friend and it seems like your care a lot for your friend.

What you can do:
1) understand what it is that is making her unhappy and want to attempt self wounding and suicide, it sounds like it's because of her parents discipline style and lake of understanding.
2) Be a person she can talk to. She is upset and needs people to talk to about this like a friend. Be supportive and understanding.
3) let her know you love her as a great friend and she has a lot to live for
4) You may want to talk to another person such as a teacher or grownup your close with about your concern.
5) once you know what it is she's upset about work out a solution plane with her (keep in mind that this suggestion may take awhile)
6) have her parents understand they love and care about her and probably want her to be safe

What she can do:
1) have someone she can talk to
2) have her talk to her school counselor or close one
3) have her understand that she is severely hurting her self if she continues to do these bad things

You seem like a great person. I hope this advice helps. good luck.

Answer 5

The best way you can help your friend is to tell her parents.

YES, I know it's a betrayal of trust, but who would feel worse if she took a gun and shot herself in the leg or something??? And what if she shot in the wrong area, hit an artery and killed herself unintentionally???

Your friend needs help NOW. She's seeking attention because she feels she's not getting anything from her parents (and maybe that's true, but.....). If you feel you can't tell her folks, then tell SOMEONE in authority. But do it now before its too late.

Answer 6

Any 1 who wants attention that bad will be smart enough to figure out what to do on their own w/o the help of a voyeristic friend that stands in the shadows watching .....

What kind of friend are you? Instead of helping her do bodily harm.....HELP HER ....get mental health help!.....Depression...plays a big factor in suicidal ideations....Your friend needs medical intervention.

Go to her parents...be a friend....tell them about their daughters wishes to hurt herself....let the parents take over from there.....You've done the friend thing...and step aside!

Answer 7

You should not try to deal with this on your own. You should get a counselor or another professional involved or call a suicide hot-line. If you are in school, you may want to ask a teacher that you trust for more help or guidance.

Answer 8

You can try to be with her when she goes for help. My brother put a gun to his head once after my Mom died and his best friend took it away and that's why he is still breathing. TELL HER SHECAN TALK TO YOU at any time of the day or night and keep your word and answer when she calls. There are hotlines too for her to have a sympathetic ear. Whats her first option I wonder?

Answer 9

Ask your friend if its worth it? Ask her what will she be accomplishing if she tries to huirt herself? I know parents can be a drag trust im 17 and i have my own child. Sometimes you just got to let them be te one with the last word. It' s just a matter of time before they can see you. I mean they know you are there, they just need a moment to think things through. I dont get to go anywhere. If i go outside i am no allowed to be off the porch. Just let her know there is so much to see in life and dont give up cuz soon god will give her a chance to shine she just has to be patient. let me know if you need anything. [e-mail]

Answer 10

Seeming as your name is 'Satan' then I am having doubts that this question is true. If it is then I apologise but still it seems like you want a way to badly injure 'someone' without dying and are not accepting the advice people are giving

Answer 11

Tell her parents about her situation and dont let her know that you told her parents. Try to re-concile her. If she is adamant, I would suggest you take her to a tatoo shop and get her a tatoo done. That way she will receive pain, her parents would also kind of understand that something is wrong. You gotta get pain when you gotta get pain.