they are a good person? What if there is no passion?
Honest answers.....sometimes I wonder if I could do this.
2006-08-07 04:24:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No.. I did this. I married my husband because he seemed safe and secure.. there was no spark, no fire... and now 3 years later I am going to file for divorce... it is nice at first but eventually the weight of being with someone who you don't have the mental connection with weighs on your heart and your mind... you start craving it and looking beyond your relationship and wondering what you are missing... you feel so unfullfilled .... don't do it... be patient and wait for the person you are meant for... they will come when you least expect and you will be so thankful you waited.
2006-08-07 04:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. I have searched for a good man and constantly ended up with cheaters and liars. Why? Because I'm not sexually attracted to the good ones. Now that this point has hit home, I am keeping my eyes open for that good guy that I will feel no sexual attraction for.
I also sometimes wonder how long before the passion fades anyway?
I am not saying that this is right for you, but you asked for an honest opinion and this is mine!
2006-08-07 11:43:37 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you marry anyone under circumstances like this??? Being "married" or having a significant other is NOT the cure all or end goal in life. Being a complete person who likes themselves, contributes to society, and is happy IS a great goal. IF, along the way, you find someone with similar goals, intelligence, and attitudes, then perhaps you can share a life. Where did the notion that being single is a bad thing come from??? The worst thing I can think of is being lonely when you are WITH someone. Good luck
2006-08-07 11:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have passion. A bad sex life leads to a bad relationship all around. You can't just marry someone because they are a good person.
2006-08-07 11:27:19 · answer #4 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...I am out of a long long term marriage and hope to find a life partner once again, buy realize its not going to be easy because I know what it takes to go the distance and much of it stems from the passion for one another...without it I would not consider marrying.
2006-08-07 11:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never marry someone unless you can't imagine life without them. Marriage takes a lot of work. The "lovey-dovey" feelings come and go. The problem is that it's not unusual to be attracted to someone else. If you have never had those feelings for the person you're married to, it's too easy to give in to them with someone else. It's too easy to convince yourself that the other person is your "soul-mate."
2006-08-07 11:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you see that the person you are with doesn't have all the love potions for all your needs then maybe he isn't the man for you. When you marry someone you want to marry them because they are everything you could ever hope for.
2006-08-07 11:52:25 · answer #7 · answered by liliw24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you will get bored and resentful. Passion is part of what makes love so wonderful. Don't settle. Wait for that spark!
2006-08-07 12:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God same thing with me!
There is somebody soo good to me, loves me with all his heart, asked me yo marry him, I canot say NO to HIM but i can't say YES either.......Just i am not attracted phisically to him, read my previous questions, and you'll see i am in the same line as you are....
Is so difficult, because you do not want to let go of him, but on the other hand you just know deep inside you, that is not what your heart really is looking for.......
I still don't know what to do though, i feel so good when i'm around him, he makes me feel like no other person in this life.......
I'm afraid that if a say Yes, i might regret it, and if i say NO i still mihg regret it.....I know i can't keep him like this though, just haven't had the answer i'm looking for in my life yet.....
Good Luck to you Sweety!
2006-08-07 11:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by Lesley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question is what does "Good" mean...?
And no, I personally wouldn't. No passion to start, small potential for gain.
2006-08-07 12:11:29 · answer #10 · answered by jokerscard692000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋