2006-08-07 04:23:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife and I do, but you have to be willing to accept and to try.
2006-08-07 04:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by big T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been however I wasn't trying to work my marriage out so I went by myself because my ex figured that a counselor would help. The counselor got a good laugh from me and said he didn't see anything wrong and it appeared as though my mind was made up. It was pretty much a waste of my time, however, if two people are in agreement then yes I would suggest a counselor. They can help as long as you are willing to accept it.
2006-08-07 11:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Amber, my wife and I went to three different counselors together. None of them really worked for us. We could see that after 3 or 4 sessions that they would tend to favor one of us and then it made the other person feel like they were being ganged up on. It may work for you and your husband. You may find someone better than we did.
I personally would suggest that the two of you sit down together and be completely open and honest with each other. This is what we finally did and it worked much better than the counselors!
I wish you luck in which ever way you decide to go.
2006-08-07 13:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are a woman, this will be great for you, because the counselor will basically blame the man for everything and try to make him feel bad for being a man, e. g. he's wrong for wanting sex, wrong for drinking beer after mowing the lawn, wrong for not getting in the middle of every fight you have with your mother or girlfriend etc
if you are the man, you will be made to feel bad about being a guy and the woman will be made to feel like a goddess for being more emotional, the assumption that she does more household chores is pretty much a given
and so on
2006-08-07 11:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by JizzMopper L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't mind that I responded to this, No we have not been to counseling, but i read some books on knowing the opposite sex, and understanding each other feelings. so in a way we worked on our problems on our own and of course it was cheaper on the pocket. but if therapy works for some couples i see nothing wrong with it. by the way we are married 13 years and going strong
2006-08-07 12:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, me and my husband went. not that we were having trouble with the relationship but he is REALLY puicky about certain things that was getting on my nerves BAD. we went i gave my side, he gave his, the counselor gave us good advice, even if it was the same thing i had told him, guess he needed to hear it from a prof. ha but it has made a good turn around. but you HAVE to be very open and not hold back anything if you really want it to help good luck
2006-08-07 11:32:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest it if you are both truly committed to saving your marriage... my husband has a fear of being honest about his emotions and doesn't trust psychiatrist and psychologists so the counselor couldn't help us because he wasn't open to her.... it can work if you are both open to it.
2006-08-07 11:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋