I need to know to what extent my mother can keep me from going across state borders.?

Question

I am currently 17 and will be 18 Sept.28. I am unhappy and very depressed where I am now. To the point at times where I want to just kill myself. I have a way out of here but I dont want to get anyone in trouble since I am under 18

My way out of here is not just some random person I just met. It's my sister's mother. We were all going to move to FL but my mother decided yesterday that I wasnt allowed to go, yet all the time up to yesterday she was ok with it. If anyone is willing to talk to me please send me a message on Yahoo messanger. And not anyone that is going to flame me.

Answer 1

what happens when you get there and want to come back?

Answer 2

FIRST: do not kill yourself or you will never cross a state line again.

The best plan would be to lay low until you are 18, then nobody can do anything to stop you from going where you like. If you elicit assistance in leaving the state against your parents' consent, whoever helps you could be charged with anythying from a misdemeanor contributing charge to kidnapping or violation of the Mann Act (if you happen to be female)

You could apply to the court for emancipation, but that would probably take longer than waiting for your birthday.

18 is the magic number, and just the beginning. You have a very temporary problem, don't fix it with a permanent solution.

Answer 3

When you asked that question, I am sure that you anticipated some of the responses. Since it’s expected here goes?

1. You will be reported until you reach 18.
2. What does going across the border do for you, is the other side greener like the border of mexico? How is that going to make you happier?
3. What are you running from?

Before you do anything (18 or not) go talk it out with some counselors or church ministers. Get your two feet on the ground firmly before setting off, done just run away.

Answer 4

If your mother is your legal guardian, and you live in a state where the age is 18, she can call the police and have you drug back if she wants to. A few states allow a 17 year to move out, but the 17 still can not sign a contract, rent an apartment and things like that.

Answer 5

Sweetie, you have just over one month to go until you turn 18 so just hang in there and wait it out.
As for what extent your mother could go from keeping you from going across state borders well, she could call the police and have you brought back in cuffs and I really don't think anyone wants that for you either.
Have you sat down and tried to talk things out with your mother yet? Does she know just how you feel? I'm a mother and I know if one of my children had thoughts like yours I would want to know because children are so very important to mothers no matter how the child feels.
Please take the time and talk things over with your mother and maybe the two of you can work out something for your benefit as well as for hers too.
Please don't try to run away as it can lead to some terrible things for you and that would not be something you would want to happen to yourself either.

Answer 6

No matter how grown up u r, u will always be someones child. If u r contemplate on taking yur life, what justice or difference would it make with yur life. Don't ever think of ending yur life, grab hold of it, take control of it. Make it wat u want it 2 b. Bridges r made 2 b crossed not burned. Give respect 2 yur family & demand it back. Think of how a family relationship should b & make it yur focus. Also times r hard in this country. Ask yur self how will u survive, who will take care of u. If the answer is u, then make sure that it is u & no one else. Be sure that u r totally independant. If u decide 2 leave, leave with yur family's blessing. That way if u can not take care of yur self, u will always hav a home 2 com bac 2. I don't know wat influences r encouraging u 2 cross state lines, but let those decisions b made by u & only u. Hav a plan in life.

Answer 7

The problem isn't with where you are in terms of geography, it is a problem that you are having with yourself and your own state of mind now. Go and seek assistance and a good councillor. That way you will understand the feelings you are experiencing. Understanding will give you hope and direction.

I have some idea of how you feel as I have been in a similar place as well.

You can't run from whats in your head, and killing yourself doesn't solve the problem, it just means you will have to relearn the lesson in the next life. Get it right first time around, put some thinking effort in. Its easier than you may think to solve.

Answer 8

Wait until you're 18 and free. Make plans to leave after Sept. 28. If you have a date and a plan it will be easier to wait...it's not that far away and you probably have things to do to better prepare for the great escape. Good luck.

Answer 9

If you are still a minor in your state you can't leave without her permission.

The bigger issue here is the problems you are experiencing.

It is difficult, but try to stick around and work on fixing the problems. Many adults out there have never learned how to do this and they therefore run any time they see danger. Learn to work through problems and your life will turn out much better.

Answer 10

She cant do dick. Your old enough to go where you want, it would help to show visible means of support but isnt necessary. You just tell the cops you were getting a job as soon as you get where your going, and do that. Make sure your way out doesnt include some creep that just wants to have sex, that never works.

Answer 11

Save youself some trouble and wait until you're 18....Sept 28 is really not that far away. You've survived this long, you can survive another couple months.