I just learned that my husband has been exchanging numerous emails (about every other day) to a very beautiful young lady in order to 'help eachother with their skills in the eachothers languages'.
He hasn't told me about this.
Should I ask him about it? If so, how?
2006-08-07 04:18:01 · 37 answers · asked by italiana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think that sense he is your husband you should just be able to ask him about it up front.....he will be more open to you if you simply put it out there to him that you are worried about your relationship but you truly want to trust him and that is why you are trying to calm your fears by asking him about the emails.....i hope everything goes ok.....good luk:)
2006-08-07 04:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by volllballgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since, you have already made up your mind with some doubt, I don`t think your enquiry would be normal. Any guy could differentiate the tone in which your asking it. Most probably it may go wrong.
However, keeping this in the mind may worse your way of questioning.
If there is some history about husband on this same regard, better put up the question directly.
If not forget it, nothing Wrong in it.
As a husband of my wife ( Who has put up similar questions to me), I had faced this type of problem and felt hurt. However, I had some affairs before marriage I had some reason why she though like that and loved her for being possessive on me.
2006-08-07 04:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by Rishi Kishi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A curiosity question is how come you happened on to this bit of information. What is your husbands type of work and does he have knowledge in the language under consideration? Perhaps he has a full work day and doesn't waste your time telling you all the various little things he does as he doesn't want to bore you to death. Why don't you just ask him; and lead into it with how you happen to know.
2006-08-07 04:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. I don't know how you would ask without him knowing you were snooping. On the other hand, he shouldn't be hiding this from you either. This is a tough one. If the emails are innocent, I think I would just let it be. Maybe he didn't tell you because he knew you would overreact. Unless he has given reason for you to think otherwise, I would give him the benefit of the doubt right now.
2006-08-07 04:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all he is doing is giving english lessons and getting lessons in her language what is the problem. And don't you feel kind of weird checking up on your husband on the internet unless there is more to this story then your telling us
2006-08-07 04:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the subject of the emails are general and not anything personal I wouldn't worry but if they get too personal then I would ask.
The how is a toughie, it depends how you found out about them, I'm assuming some snooping was involved.
2006-08-07 04:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask him about it, you are tipping him off that you know about it and then if something is going on they'll be more careful to hide it from you.
I wouldn't say anything or even hint to him about it but I would keep a sharp eye on the situation.
2006-08-07 04:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you confront him, he'd get defensive and accuse you on snooping on him. What if it is truly harmless exchange of ideas and information between your husband and that woman? I suggest that you hint gently that you are feeling neglected. And do express your insecurities to him rather than bottle up.
2006-08-07 04:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope you don't believe that crap.he is cybering with her.does he go on the computer late at night.does he try to hide his conversations or messages from you.i hope for your sake that he really is helping her with each others language.but you need to be careful there are women in other countries that ask men for help.they are looking for money or any reason to get into america.they will even offer him sex.so be very careful and confront him right away.tell him that you heard of a guy who was asked to send money to a hotel in africa,cause this art collector of a woman ,only had checks and the hotel only took cash. so she was stuck there till she could raise the money to pay the hotel bill.she even sent him pictures of herself(gorgeous blonde in a bikini)she said that she would be "very" grateful if he helped her.when he asked why she doesn't get in touch with any bank and that they would help her, she disappeared.tell him to be careful.although it may just be innocent cybering.
2006-08-07 04:40:26 · answer #9 · answered by spocklogical1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say something like "hey, I had your email open and noticed a bunch of emails from this girl. Is it anything I should be worried about?"
Then watch his reaction. If it's innocent he won't be nervous at all. If it's not, then you guys need to have a talk.
2006-08-07 04:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by Curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I've got a few questions for you:
1) is she local?
2) is your husband giving you what you need?
3) are you giving him what he needs?
if the answer are YES, No and NO... you could be in trouble.
2006-08-07 04:28:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋