Hi. My boyfriend and I have been together for three months. He went away for four weeks this summer for a college prep course, and he just came back a few days ago. For the first three weeks of the program we talked everyday, and we were all lovey dovey and he was telling me how much he couldn't wait to come home and see me. However, the last week he was there, when we talked online he seemed a little distant and cold. I thought things would get better when he arrived home, but instead he is still acting distant and cold. He won't give me an exact date when he'll see me, and he cancelled plans with me to go hang out with his best friend. He doesn't seem to show any interest in doing anything with me. He was distant once or twice in the past for no reason, but that only lasted about a day. Once he said he even considered breaking things off, but decided against it. My friends don't think it's a big deal and that I shouldn't worry. Does he wanna break up, or does he just need his space?
2006-08-07 04:10:39 · 6 answers · asked by Paige 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I tried to confront him about it, telling him that he seemed kinda distant for the past few days and if everything was alright. All he answered was "I guess". I also asked him if I did something to make him not want to see me and he said no, that I didn't do anything. He hasn't told me he loved me in a couple of days, and when I told him I missed him he did tell me he missed me back, but that could have only been because I said it first. Something similar to this happened with him a couple of months ago, and I let the weekend go by and everything was fine. I'm worried though that this might not be the case this time.
2006-08-07 04:14:05 · update #1
it might not have anything to do w/breaking up, maybe something really bad or tramatic happened and he's not ready to tell u yet.. all u can do is speak to him and ask him if he needs space, or if he wants to break up or ask him did something bad happened..
if u give him to much space he may think u don't want to be w/him...
then and only then will u know instead of assuming things for the worse...
2006-08-07 04:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by Queen D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey u be the one to call attention to the elephant in the room, he is ready to be free and just doesn't have the guts to say anything, U be the one to break it off, as young as you are there is plenty of time to meet the guy for u, don't waste ur time.
2006-08-07 04:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, dont worry about him. Start doing things for yourself. Keep yourself busy! Do not sit around waiting for him to call, get yourself out there. Have fun and enjoy your life!
If its ment to be its ment to be. If not, there is someone better out there for ya!
2006-08-07 04:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by MsLysa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does not matter what HE wants it only matters what you want and from your note i think this kind of relationship, a lack of clossnes is bothering you. follow your heart not your head and listen to what you are saying to others as this is a key to noing your own heart and the first step to folowing it ..
2006-08-07 04:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was long ... anyway well he could just be worn out from college prep and need to hang out with his friends dont freak out
2006-08-07 04:16:08 · answer #5 · answered by omega101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he want to broke up call him and tell him what going on and also that you want to broke up with him BC he act so distance and see his reaction and if he said yes then sorry but move on
2006-08-07 04:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋