my husband does not care for me,and my in laws r not nice with me, i have 1 baby,should i leave my husband?

Question

iam 21 yrs,i got married last year and have one 8 months baby. my prob is my husband does not care for me, he listens 2 whatever his mother tells him 2 do.my husband and my in-laws hate my parents and they dont let me meet my parents much.my hubby says that i should respect his mother very much. he does not care about my feelings. for my hubby his mother is his 1st priority. my mother in law always hurts me by talking rudely with me.she stays with us only.she just sits and make me work all day long. and she always try to take my baby away from me, she behaves as if she is her mother not me. but the truth is she hates my baby also. but my husband cannot realize this,he thinks his mother is very nice. and my hubby do not have mercy on me,he just want me to work like a animal,he wants the home to be very clean, he shouts at me if my baby do any mess.and he wants me to take care of his mother and listens to whatever she says.iam getting mad, what should i do, should i leave him?plz help me

Answer 1

Leave him and let him and his mother babysit every other weekend, while you enjoy that weekend with your new man.

Answer 2

The bible says that a man should leave his mother and join his wife. You need to be very respectful of your mother-in-law while not allowing her to cross over any lines. The thing is, if you are a home maker with only one baby and your husband provides for all of you and he is not physically abusive and he is faithful , I do not think you should leave or give up yet just because he wants the house spotless. Try harder to meet his expectations with the house and work on the other issues at the same time. Pray about it also, God can change all things.

Answer 3

Have you told any of your friends about it? Plus it sounds you got married really young, so maybe that is why your husband relies on his mother soo much and why she in turn doesn't like you or the baby as you put it. When you guys got married did his parents object to it in the beginning? I think you may want to tell your parents and get support from them but before you call it quits and feel like you can't take it anymore, see a counselor about the problem either marriage counselor or a private one for you alone only. It can give you an extra support to your problem and maybe legal help IF the decision is YOURS to leave him.
My dad became an alcholic in the middle of my mom and dad's marriage, her seeing a counselor and talking to her family helped clear and relieve a lot of the pain, stress, and emotions, that were stopping her from trying to help my dad and make the situation better. Just try the counselor thing for a while, and if you don't like it well, you know your options. Praying helps too, it gives you some hope and strength when your heart is set on the words you plea.

Answer 4

I already know that you want to leave. You are scared and hurting and need to hear from others you are making the right choice. You are. You need out. Don't live your life that way. You are young and have a long happy life ahead of you. It will be hard for you and you will hurt for a while, but hurt goes away. Think about your future. You will find love and happiness, there is alot of it out there. Don't stay where you don't want to be, you will end up bitter and resentful. You will be ok, everything will work out for you. I've always believed when you make a decision, the universe will do what it can to accomidate it.

Answer 5

Go back to your parents house until you get situated again. File for a divorce and make that joker pay support for the child he helped bring into the world.

He seems like a mama's boy, and your mother in law sounds like a monster in law! You do not need this type of abuse. If your husband wants a maid, tell him to hire his mother!

Stick with your own family and find a nice guy who will treat you nice and respect you and accept your baby. Preferably and older gentlemen, younger men seem to take forever to mature, and you really do not want to wean a guy until he is of age!

But talk with your parents about the way you feel and how uncomfortable your husbands parents make you feel. They should understand and allow you to move in with them.

It sounds like you already know what you want to do, you just want some additional advice, and my advice to you is to Leave!

You do not need the headache! Good luck with your life and baby.

Answer 6

First of all no one can tell you to leave your husband. If you love
him and if he makes you happy when your in-laws are not around , then maybe you still have a chance . And if he is only with
you because of the baby thats not good for you and your child it
only will get worse . And no one should tell you that you should"t
see you mother. Besides you married your husband not you in-
laws . And you need to decide if this marrage is going to hurt you and you child in the long run . Think hard about this because it will effect you and your child in the years to come . You are young
and still learning so be good to your self . Life is to short to have not only her husband but , your in-laws tell you what to do and who to see . Don"t wait until its to late to realize what are your priority are .

Answer 7

You should not leave your husband. You might have all the reason in the world to do it, but think about your baby. Are you and your baby ok to have a broken family? Is it truly hopeless to have your husband realize the situation? Believe me, there is always a little chance, and that is all you need. Big changes come from little steps. You do not need for your husband to understand you in one day. Just make the time do the work. Do what you should do? Let them do what they think is right. It will come to them. Just wait for it. Wait for that joy to finally have them understand your situation. It is the greatest reward that you will lose if you quit now.

Answer 8

IS SHE LIVING there? Thats not good at all if that is so. She needs her own place and not for you to be doing everything. You have enough to handle already. HE must start siding with you and defending YOU to her. YOU are his wife. Sounds like a Mamas boy. Dont leave yet. Try to get her out of your house. Tell him this is serious and you wont have there forever OR you will make other arrangements. I wish you luck dear. It helps to have a job if you ever really want to leave.

Answer 9

your husband sounds like a control freak. You should be blaming yourself as well for not putting your foot down. If you want to see your parents than go. Perhaps take a nice long trip away from him. Ask your parents for help. I would discuss with a lawyer and try to serve him separation papers. no one should be treated like a dog. I also believe you need to stand up to your mother-in law. If you do not agree with what she has to say than say it. If you are afraid of your husband than I would go visit your parents and start proceedings.

Answer 10

Listen, there is only one thing to do. That is to leave him. Tell him how you feel, and tell him that you don't want to continue with his side of the family. Tell him that you are tired of doing all of the work, and that you are tired of him listening to his mother. Let him know that when he decided to marry you, you became his first priority and when he decided to have your baby the baby became his first priority. So tell him to stop listing to his mother or your leaving

Answer 11

Looks like someone need to stand up and get some respect in her house. First, of you should let your husband know your his wife and he ask you to marry him so he needs to treat you better. Also, that his mother needs to respect you especially in you home. Let him know that you are not his slave and he can help clean up also. Ask him what he thinking that babies don't make mess they do that all the time.