I'm going to be a junior in college and for most of the past two years I have been part of the sorority girl/hook-up scene along with all of my friends. However, I recently started a wonderful relationship. My friends seemed happy for me at first, but I have been hearing that they have been talking about me behind my back. I have heard that they are going to try to break up my boyfriend and me when I get back to school. Keep in mind these things are being said while drunk at a bar, and when I confronted my friends they denied saying anything. My boyfriend is taking a year off of school for personal reasons and I am going to be back at school with friends who will pressure me into going out to hook up. I don't know if they are jealous that I am in a relationship and they are still doing things that make them feel badly about themselves, or if they feel like I am choosing my boyfriend over them. I don't know if I should believe their claim of innocence or find new friends who support me.
2006-08-07 03:54:39 · 16 answers · asked by bubabe_08 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If they are really saying those things then I don't think that they are really your friends. If you are in a great relationship, then they should be happy for you and not jealous that you are no longer wanting to go out to the bars with them. If they were your friends they would understand that you could still spend time with them, but in a different setting than getting drunk and trying to hit on men. Maybe you should try finding some friends that are also in relationships that you would have more in common with and don't worry about these girls who claim to be your friends.
2006-08-07 03:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by lilcountrygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hummm, well, I'd say right off the bat that they are jealous, absolutely! And immature in that you have "abandoned" their little group. There has to be a leader in your girl-group and I'd suspect that she might have alot of insecurity about losing a groupie. Just do your own thing. Be kind to them and ignore the "cat-talk". They can't play a game on you unless you engage. They can't do a thing to you unless you allow it. Don't feel guilty; what did you do wrong? AND...I'd throw a few new friends in the mix who have some other interests than "hooking up". There is more to life than that, and seems like you are one step ahead of everyone else. God Bless.
2006-08-07 11:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you truly love your boyfriend, don't worry about these 'friends'. Drunk or not this is not a topic that should be talked about by people who consider themselves your friends. Tell your friends that you love your boyfriend and that IF you ever break up you want it to be between the two of you. Tell them you appreciate their friendship but would also appreciate them keeping you out of their conversations from here on out.
2006-08-07 10:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by hockey_kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about him enough to be this upset about it then he is worth keeping. So if it were me I would get new friends b/c first of all they case you to do things that you regret later and second you have a great guy sounds like. DONT ruin it with him. It sucks in the end no matter what, take it from experience.
2006-08-07 11:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by bec7bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should find new friends because they are causing to much drama also try to avoid them and keep in contact with your boyfriend make plans with your boyfriend.STAY AWAY FROM THOSE HATERS! you donot need that kind of drama in your just stay focus on what you got to do.and if they were your real friends that would not put you in this situation.
2006-08-07 11:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by Tocarra B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them and find new friends. They are not worth your friendship. If ur relationship is true nothing and no one can break it.
2006-08-07 11:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by taurus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really should find out all of the facts about it first. if they are then find good friends, if they aren't find out who is.
2006-08-07 11:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by Sαoιρsε 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop that friend.......a friend is not a friend who wants to ruin your life......never trust esp.. a girlfriend with your boyfriend
2006-08-07 11:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make new friends who arent soo jealous of you
2006-08-07 10:57:47 · answer #9 · answered by Finding happiness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, they aren't your friends at all. Take your leave.
2006-08-07 10:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋