Ok here is the deal, my manager and I are pretty cool and he talks to me about his pretty much everything, he tells me that his been with wife for 10yrs and 2 kids, went through the ups and downs BUT he tells me that she never wants to have sex anymore, that the only time he can have sex with her is when she drinks, and she's not much of a driker. I know know he wants my advice cause he's always talkinga about it, but I don't know what to tell him, he also tells me that she dont clean or cooks, but that he loves her and she's a good mother, I say drop her, but I think his a little concern on why she won't sleep with him, what should i tell him? help me help him. I 'm not to good at this
2006-08-07 03:54:33 · 12 answers · asked by wcenice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your manager sounds like an insensitive jerk.i bet his wife is just not happy with the way he makes love to her.although it sounds like he is looking to you for some kind of approval.maybe he is looking to fool around on his wife.he is telling you,so that you will feel sorry for him,he wants you to fix him up with one of your friends.or maybe he is into you.either way if you feel uncomfortable about the situation it can be reported as a kind of sexual harassment.
2006-08-07 04:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by spocklogical1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is listen. The second best is to not say anything, as most men, especially those that aren't in a committed relationship, have nothing good to say. If you really want to give him advise it'll only work if you listen to everything he has to say and ask questions regarding how he is towards her. Does he just go to work, come home and be lazy? Or does he make an effort around the house? Does he show her he loves her? Do they take time for just them? Etc. etc. He needs to work at his marriage, it's not a one way street and there needs to be some give and take.
2006-08-07 04:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off you don't know if he is telling the truth or not, cause you don't live in the home with them. Unless you know them both very well you can't really tell him anything. Their is always 2 sides to a story and you only have 1 side. All you can do listens to him and let him get it off his chest. Maybe he just sucks in bed, or maybe he treats her like sh!t when he goes home and sits on his a**. Maybe just maybe everything he tells you is a lie cause he is looking for sympathy.
2006-08-07 04:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mouth shut, Dude. This is his wife we're talking about and you won't be able to find a happy medium; you're up against a rock and a hard place. Just say, man, women are hard to figure out. He needs to get some counseling and keep his private life private. If I were his wife and I found out he was talking about our relationship this way, I'd be super pissed! And she might just do that; or he might say, "but John at work told me....etc.etc."...do you get what I'm saying? MYOB and ask him to stop discussing his personal life with you if you want to keep your friend and your job.
2006-08-07 04:10:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems u just need to listen to what he has to say, he needs a friend and someone to confide in. Obviously there is a deeper problem there and the only ones to work it out is them.
Tell him that professional help may be just the key to getting to the root of the problem.
2006-08-07 04:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him when was the last time he sent flowers?
When was the last time he left a little love note?
He started out doing these things and now he doesn't.
My advice is to tell him to send her flowers just because. And start treating her a little better.
2006-08-07 04:01:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling him to drop her is not good advice. They have history together, children together. They share a life together. There is strong commitment involved. Advise him to go seek marriage counseling. Sounds like he needs therapy.
2006-08-07 04:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by Optimistic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a supervisor myself, you could desire to bypass returned to the chief which you already spoke with and state: "I definitely have already delivered this subject on your interest and yet it maintains. What are you going to do approximately it, if something". If the respond isn't passable, then tell him you're being forced to bypass to the interior of sight supervisor or company HR to clean up the subject. sturdy good fortune!
2016-11-04 01:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a complete idiot sharing his personal problems with subordinates at work, but hey, thats just me.
2006-08-07 04:51:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely do not offer advice for him to drop her, you should just listen and keep your comments encouraging, this is your boss that you are talking to.
2006-08-07 04:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by lol 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋