If your gf lost weight/ dyed her hair/ started wearing make-up etc. would you think she was thinking of leavin

Question

Would you think she was thinking of leaving you?

Does no one ever check to see what gender a person might be? I'm the woman, I was just trying to see how my husband might think about the things I was doing... you know trying to find out if he might be having some insecurities. Thanks anyway

Answer 1

Isn't it hilarious that half of these people think you're a guy?

I would definitely interpret that as a signal that something was changing. I would talk to her about it, casually at first. I'd probably start by complimenting her (though I'd walk on eggshells here, this is dangerous territory - since some girls will interpret a compliment on a new look to mean you didn't like the old one and weren't honest with her about it). But basically I'd say something about it and watch the look on her face. If she gave me an indifferent look or quickly changed the subject, a dark knot would begin to form in my stomach. An "it's over, isn't it?" kind of knot.

Now, some guys might not say anything and just form theories in their head. It all depends what kind of guy your man is.

Answer 2

I think I would communicate with her before drawing any conclusions. The last thing on my mind would be she is improving her appearance to leave me. That is, unless I have little or no self respect, in which case any action on her part that is different than her normal routine would be interpreted as something that would make me more insecure.
If my girlfriend started doing these things, my assumption would be her own self-image was improving and she wants to share that improvement with her boyfriend. My assumption might be carrying around less weight would give her a better chance to live longer and therefore have more time with me and, if applicable, our children. My assumption might be that she likes playing with her appearance with make up and that can be fun.
So, nope, I would not think she is leaving me.
Now if she goes out with another guy after she puts on her make up, then I've got some worries!

Answer 3

If these are the only things you are basing your question on I would say no. Wait and see if there is any other unusual behavior. But I would probably have to agree with the other girls' answers. She is probably feeling bad about herself and wants to make some changes. Its possible that something was said to her or there was something she heard someone say about her that made her rush into a new outlook on herself. I would say sit back and watch your woman become a better and more happy girl!

Answer 4

It does appear that she's getting into her "race weight". She is prepping for something and it's probably not your anniversary. Do you have a guilty conscience? Have you abandonded her physically or emotionally? Check your actions for problems and that will give you some indication of your dilemma.

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Answer 5

No, not at all. In fact, she may be doing this to get more attention from you. Maybe she does't feel attractive enough. Please let her know that she is beautiful, wonderful etc. She needs to hear it! This could be her way of seeking compliments from you because she is afraid that she isn't making you happy.

Let her know that you've noticed the change, and you htink she's beautiful--just like she was when you guys met.

Answer 6

Maybe she is trying to get a better self image. Show her you notice and you are supportive and you like it, or she will find someone who will.

Answer 7

Maybe she is trying to feel better about herself. There is nothing wrong with updating your look. You can not expect your g/f to remain the same as when you met.

Answer 8

She maybe wants to feel better about herself, but it is more likely that someone else has turned her head and soon she will be gone...

Answer 9

yes maybe.. my bloke used to be quite insecure about that kinda stuff..he thought i was bound to leave at some stage cos he didn't think he was good enough for me.. he was insecure cos of how he felt about himself basically..you should definately let him know everythings good and u just wanna make yourself feel better.. good for you love.

Answer 10

i might, depending on how the relationship was going. if she seemed desperately unhappy before she started this i might wonder just what spurred this new effort to work on herself.