i have no support from family as i dont have one my partner has my head messed up and i think he is passive agressive he constantly ignores me after rows and when i try to sort it out he wont respond to me. its been goin on for ages feel like i am to blame, would like to leave but i have 2 kids and i am scared of the future..any advice
2006-08-07 03:51:06 · 16 answers · asked by nat c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get a job, pack your stuff, get up and go.
Why do we, as women, put up with behavior and conversation that is not becoming to us? Why do we stay in relationships that do not nurture our souls?
We are the victim of abuse because we, as women, allow it. And by the time we realize our mistake we feel it's too late. No one will want us. We have kids now, who is going to take on the responsibility of raising another mans child?
These are after thoughts. They hinder us.
Can you work? Can you find a job, even how minimal, to support yourself and your children? Are you self confident sweet heart?
I was married, with two kids (ages 1 and 2 at the time), not working AT ALL. My car was jacked up and there was no food in the fridge.
I got so frustrated with the abuse, both mental and physical that i called the cops, had him escorted off the premises. I had no clue what I was going to do or how I was going to do it. It was the first time I slept well in YEARS.
Was i fearful for the future? Did i think I couldn't do it? That NO ONE would want a 30 year old woman with two small children? Oh yeah.
But my will to succeed and provide a better environment for myself and children was activated. You're a mother, your fight or flight instinct will kick in automatically.
You are a woman, you have so much power within yourself. You DO NOT need a man to provide for you emotionally, physically, or financially. Take your faith and walk on it.
Diva
2006-08-07 04:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by black_bi_diva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A relationship has to be a two way street... did you and your partner know that? Hurting each other doesn't work. At times like this, you need to communicate with him about your feelings, and communication means that you will need his feedback. Talk to a counselor, don't talk to any friends who have not been through this exact situation. This is not a soap opera for them to have fun with. This is something that you and your partner have to sort out. If it has something to do with infidelity, this may take a while. But you have to go the extra mile for this to be resolved in the correct manner - kids are involved. This is life shattering to children. They need something that is real to continue their lives without turmoil. It will upset them if it ends badly, believe me! Get advice from a counselor!
2006-08-07 04:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by monarchfly7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Really. If he doesnt care for you why waste ur life for him. In the end u have begun blaming urself. As a woman u can do wonders for ur life n ur children. Just walk out and life will unfold itself. If u want any help please dont hesitate to turn to me. I am a woman myself and i feel very strongly for such issues. Take care. Best Regards.
2006-08-07 03:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by taurus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there and I know it is frightning, But look at what those babies are going through being there and watching the abuse go on infront of them. If you won't leave for yourself leave for them....don't you think they would be happier with a mama that can devote her time to them and not have to worry about being abused. whats the next level for him???? abusing them??? A lot of times when he sees he cant hurt you in any other way he may use them to hurt you. GET THEM BABIES AND GET OUT NOW. start by contacting an agency for abused women...they can help you get on your feet
2006-08-07 03:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by alyssaangel01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK move on and i think that the father of your kids should pay you some money and if not go to the court
2006-08-07 04:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look i understand ur situation but you have a right to have a good relationship don;t worry about ur kids they can always see their dad on the weekends if tyou want them to. and if you find somebody then those weekends will give you and ur boyfriend some time alone!!!
2006-08-07 03:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by mzpimpsquad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, got friends? The further away the better, u need to get out of there b4 he really does something nasty.
2006-08-07 04:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there, nothing is ur falt! look afte ur kids the best u can and look @ websites that offer advice sorry but i dont know any try google! best of luck!!
2006-08-07 03:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by Liza O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Professional counseling.
2006-08-07 03:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ME TOO!!!!
You can email me with the specifics and maybe I can give you some encouragement. Best wishes
2006-08-07 03:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋