They say watching porn is bad because it is written in bible, well, theoretically, if I am mature enough(over 18), and can handle this stuff, then how can this stuff be bad? Besides the fact that it hurts the marriage(because that is not true in my case). Too much of anything is ofcourse bad, but watching it here and there in todays movies isn't a bad thing, right?
2006-08-07 03:46:50 · 31 answers · asked by LLLL O 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Normally, what is written in those books have some grain of truth from my experience so logically, is there anything wrong w/ watching porn?
2006-08-07 03:52:29 · update #1
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2006-08-14 03:18:49 · answer #1 · answered by endrshadow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you know it is fantasy and your not morally against (if you don't believe in the bible), then why not watch it?
Well, for one, it usually shows that sex is so great all the time which is just not true. It's not always like it is in the movies, and you may feel disappointed when you do it for real, and it's not as good.
It will dull your senses to the real thing. You may have images in your mind of the porn while you are having sex, and that's not good. Your partner will believe that it's just you and her in the bedroom, but it's really you, her, and your porn in your mind every time you do it. Are you really faithful to her and only her if you want and lust after the woman in the porn movie?
Also it usually shows women in submission which is bad to train your mind to believe. You are paying an industry to videotape men or women being "whored" out, so you can get off. Why not just have your wife strip in front of you and talk dirty? At least you don't have to pay for that.
Lastly, it can grow into an additive habit.
2006-08-07 07:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by ht_butterfly27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really mind about porn, but the situations sketched in these movies are mostly far beyond reality. Beginners in the game can maybe learn some nice techniques, but they can also get a very strange view on women, as if they are only there to fill up in every hole they have, at any moment the man likes. But many music videos don't do any better. Personally I like sex better with someone I really like.
Also many women get abused to "act" in these movies. On the other hand, many women choose themselves to go work in this business and do make a lot of money. But I read a statistic once that the greatest part of the women in the porn and prostitution business have a background of abuse.
2006-08-07 04:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by Caveman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know its not hurting your marriage? You only know what you know. You may feel content in your marriage, and in yourself, but if something changed for the better, you would only know it then.
Men are very much stimulated visually, though women can be equally turned on by porn. Lust however is a selfish thing, while love is selfless. There is a fine line, but a line nonetheless. Doesn't it make sense that the best marriage would be those who focused their love soley on each other, rather than gratifying themselves outside the marriage?
I agree too much of anything is bad, but have you noticed the more you do something, the more you want to? Do you think you would even be questioning this if we weren't so used to seeing sexual images on commercials, tv shows, movies, magazines, billboards, etc. nearly any kind of advertisement. Its so normal now in our society.
I wish you weren't an athiest. I believe the best sexual fulfillment is physical, emotional and spiritual in true purity. And I believe purity is Jesus. But I believe the same God that is purity, also created sex... orgasm and all, and I believe he did it on purpose. Why don't you ask Him if he's real to show himself to you, you just might change your mind.
2006-08-14 17:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by lotus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christian or athiest porn is not a good idea. If you are married and you have to look at porn to get excited you have great big problems. isn't your mate enough for you?? I have never watched it and have no plans on doing so. And as for the girl who said that the Bible does'nt say anything about porn. you need to bust that thing out and try reading a little bit. There is a place in psalms that talks about not allowing vile things before your eyes. From what i hear most of that stuff is pretty vile. There are all kinds of references to sexual purity and sexual immorality. yeah you need to read before you start spouting.
The point is that it does nothing good for a relationship. it is destructive. Figure it out.
2006-08-14 22:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by hkskwa2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"It's official! Watching porn can make you a bad person. So says the FBI. Get ready for the crackdown. "Pornography teaches ideas that validate aberrant behavior," according to detective Nate Gittins of the Madison County Sheriff’s office. The use of illicit materials is not exclusively related to sex crimes. It may also lead to other criminal activities, FBI officials say.
Regarding porn addiction, there have been some cases of sexual obsession and compulsion, similar to gambling or drinking. The criteria are fairly easy to define: if you feel that you need to view pornographic movies in order to be excited, and cannot be excited without the use of these movies, then a possible addiction could exist. Moreover, if this starts to impede with your social, personal and work lives, I would suggest that you seek help regarding the addiction to pornography."
2006-08-12 05:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no therapist or psychologist. So here goes.
Porn can be a healthy and fun way of exploring your own sexuality. Nothing to trip about...sex is how we all got here! Watching porn is not bad.
Being addicted to porn however is problematic. Definitinon of addiction? If you need it, have to have it, can't live/or breathe without it or experiencing any kind of withdrawal symtoms...your'e guilty as charged.
But if your'e career driven, building a great life and/or ambitous you shouldn't have much time on your hands for porn.
Hope this helps.
2006-08-07 04:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by Get Togetha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is bad if you're addicted to it, or if you think that every girl (or guy) should be able and willing to do everything you see in porn, but other than that, there's nothing wrong with it. The problem is that somewhere along the way, a bunch of religious leaders decided that they'd have better control over their followers if they said that anything pleasurable was sinful. Bull!!!! Pleasure is good for you, and sex is fun!!!
2006-08-09 19:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by Nited1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are committed to a partner and it makes your partner feel bad, it's bad. If it causes you to avoid sexual contact with a partner because you're more interested in the porn, it is probably unhealthy. However, if it facilitates a healthy relationship with a partner and helps keep things interesting, it may be okay.
You may only be feeling guilty because society dictates that you should be embarrassed. Most everyone has fantasies and porn is a concrete extension of that. Is it possible you just need permission to be normal?
2006-08-14 14:13:17 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny Alice 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Porn movies can alter your behavior in sexual situations with your partner. Experimentation can be healthy for the relationships, but that should involve you and your partner. Porn movies often display violent sexual behavior and rarely shows the emotional side of the act itself.
You are what you eat as they say. If porn is what you digest, then that is what you will become. I would imagine that most women dont mind a bit of rough occassionally, but if that is your MO, then its most probably cause you some problems.
2006-08-14 03:41:34 · answer #10 · answered by Nick K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't really anything sinisterly sinful about watching porn as lusting for sex is part of our natural/genetical makeup. However, if you are constantly thinking about sex and that you will want to watch porn every single moment your mind is not working on something, then you may be addicted to porn. Then this is extremely unhealthy.
2006-08-07 03:52:49 · answer #11 · answered by Vixenette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋