didn't look at porn. My boyfriend mentioned to me about 2 weeks ago that he was interested in watching porn together. I told him that I didn't think I would be comfortable with that. He has also mentioned to me in the past that he didn't look at porn regularly b/c he felt that if he was going to look at porn and masturbate, he might as well just go find some girl on the street and sleep with her. I have two problems with this. The first being: He's looking at porn and masturbating to other girls. He said that since I didn't stay the night and sleep with him he needed to masturbate. My second problem with this is that he's hiding it from me. I specifically asked him last week what he did the night I left. He mentioned about looking some stuff up online and then going to bed. He did not metion that he spend about 30min to an hour surfing the net to watch porn and masturbate. Is he going to do this every night that I can't sleep over? What do I do? This is unacceptable to me
2006-08-07 03:42:06 · 14 answers · asked by DeZINE-ER 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You seem like a nice person. You have your choice and your preference. You don't like porn. I wouldn't get mad at you. Look like he wants to take it to a sexual level now. Are you ready for that? He feels that if you are not giving him any that he must masturbate to satisfy himself. I don't know why he is hiding it from you. You all need to talk some more and see where he stands on this. I hope everything works.
2006-08-07 04:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by sadtiger 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you can do anything about him looking at porn on the Internet. You can't be their 24/7 and you can't just have sex him with because you don't want him masturbating off in front of the computer. You will end up feeling like you are only their for sex if you do that. The only thing you can do is tell him how it makes you feel and make sure you tell him everything not just some of it. Then only then will he understand and maybe stop doing it out of respect for your relationship. Some guys think it isn't a big deal but it is a form of cheating. How would he like it if you looked at porn on the Internet and got yourself a toy to satisfy yourself?
2006-08-07 03:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have a good sexual relationship with your boyfriend, meaning that the both of you are satistfied and furfilled within your sex life then I would not worry about the porn. My boyfriend used to always download porn on his computer as well, and whenever I would go to his house and use the computer I would check to see the last time he downloaded porn, he used to tell me the same thing that he was up doing some things on the computer.
but you know what I thought about what I was getting upset about and I realized it was silly, I mean If you know your man is not with another women, then I don't see anything wrong with it, as a matter of fact with my situation I realized I was being a hypocrit because I used to watch the porn on his computer as well. If you were masturbating wouldn't you want someone to look at? as long as it is just on the screen, don't give your man such a hard time about it, and try watching it with him, and that way he won't have the urge to hide it from you,and maybe if you start watching it together he will be more open about it. Don't be afraid to try something new, it may benefit the relationship
2006-08-07 04:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by Thandie 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
properly while you're the two 18 now, and function been relationship already for 3 years, and meaning he grew to become into 15 whilst he grew to become into gazing. and that i don't comprehend approximately you yet what 15 year previous does not watch or have watched it. it quite is standard for a young person to computer screen or a minimum of have an interest in it. And for the lesbo areas, he might desire to not be into lesbos yet its a activate seeing a 2 warm females having exciting then a bad different guy twiddling with a youthful woman. Get the %? and you comprehend what do not beat your self up the two in view it quite is disrespectful to be gazing stuff like that whilst with you too. in simple terms because of the fact he's a guy does not propose he could be a pig/perv, capture the waft. It aint a bad subject that he watched it yet its undesirable that he's being impolite to you. and he knows that it hurts you and if he did love you like the way you're saying, why might he being doing that. he's treating you like trash. So if i grew to become into you, i might woman up. tell him that if he cared adequate approximately you he might supply up hurting you like that. And if he does not, he ain't worth a while. you may cry approximately it and wine, in spite of the shown fact that it quite is quite his loss. And its basically ur fault if u save letting him treatin u with disrespect. He says he is going to marry you? Why might somebody your going to marry, why might u disrespect and harm them. And it quite is coming from yet another guy. and you're able to desire to allow circulate of your insecurities too, there keeping you back. See you do not think of ur stable adequate because of the fact he's a pig and treats you undesirable? no! you may desire to tell him, if he dont straighten up, then he can kiss you notice you later. think of roughly it. There are over 3 billion different adult males obtainable. supply up dropping ur time, odds are a greater effective finding guy could be waiting for you and could cope with you 1000x greater effective. tell him to advance up and supply up performing like a 15 year previous!!!
2016-12-11 08:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if naked girls turn him on, then why don't u suggest that he masturbate to you naked? IF u can't be there take pictures but i think u would be interested to know if he can jack it with u there or if its just a mind thing with him that to him, he is cheating on you but only on a cpu so "it doesn't count" Many men see online porn as an extra outlet for sex because lets face most woman don't want to have as much sex as men do. However, if he can't wack it while staring at ur hot body then something is definitely wrong!!
good luck!
2006-08-07 04:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by stewiegrif27 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The more you nag him about it, the more he'll look at it and rub one out. He lied about it because he was embarrassed. You know, if you start looking at porn WITH him, one of two things might happen. You may like it and it will spice up your love life. Or he'll stop looking at it behind your back because it is no longer exciting for him to sneak around and look at nameless naked girls.
2006-08-07 03:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by Alan J 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
First of all...you must be really young and immature. Cause A. Porn is natural for men (sometimes women)(It's the 21st Century-Its normal now!!) B. The reason he is keeping it from you is cause he knows you will blow up! Guys hate crazy women..but they will do anything to keep you from going this way. So he is merely keeping a fight to start up. Not right, but its men...get over it!
So, nothing is his fault or wrong with him (period). Its you with the issues of not trusting and maturity state.
2006-08-07 04:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by MsLysa 3 · 6⤊ 2⤋
sounds like he cant be trusted and is very sex-cited when watching porn .. so if u give in to him and sleep over it wont change his habit as he likes porn regardless of what u do with him he will still prefer to watch porn and masturbate as he loves to feel himself ejaculate what he does out of sight is nothing to do with u as its his world and feels free u are just a stand in for him ,,find some one better.
2006-08-07 04:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by sandman 2 · 0⤊ 7⤋
what's the problem??? porn is normal, at least he aint cheatin wi sum cheap tart.
2006-08-07 03:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 3⤋
you can install a porn filter software like NetDog on the computer,that help you to block all porn sites quitely in the background when he's surfing on the internet. http://www.netdogsoft.com
2006-08-08 05:38:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 8⤋