i'm a boy of 15 and since some years back i've been developing scoliosis(about10-11 years old)which i learned while browsing on the web.i've never told anyone about it then but throught this year(january-february) i've been getting pain from my back but i endured it quietly as i did not want anyone to know about it.some days back the pain from my back became unbearable and yesterday i told my mom about my deformed body and the pain.she listened to me,watched my chest and said that it would be alright later.then today i told it to my father and after he watched my chest he shouted at me and said that i was responsible for what is happening to me,he preached me that i don't eat and exercise enough and continued to read his newspaper.later he phoned a doctor to take an appointment.i am feeling really alone and guilty about myself.should i consider suicide?what can i do to remove this guilt from my mind?
2006-08-07 03:36:00 · 8 answers · asked by a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Frist thing first, don't kill yourself. It is not your fault that you have scoliosis. No one can control if they get it or not. So don't blame yourself for any of it. No matter if your dad tells you that it is your fault, it isn't. I think that the best thing to do is to ask your doctor about it and how you get it. Thing that you can't answer and that your dad needs to hear. Just remember that a disease is never your fault, it can be caused by anything. There is really nothing you can do to stop it but it is never your fault.
2006-08-07 03:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by J-Bird 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, take a deep breath, lose the drama, and obviously no, you do not need to commit suicide. I also was diagnosed with scoliosis when I was younger (although mine is slight, and not noticable at all). You did not cause it. Scoliosis is not caused by lack of eating and exercise. It gets worse as you grow, and that's it. Your parents probably don't understand it, but if they take you to the doctor, they will be better informed and I'm sure they'll start to understand. Sometimes parents say things that sound mean, and will make you feel like you are to blame, simply because they don't know the facts. So give your parents a little break, and be patient. Good luck with all this, and take care of yourself!
2006-08-07 10:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you start school you can talk to your counselor about it. It has nothing to do with what you eat and exercise. I have arthritis and scoliosis through out my whole body. I'm 27. I've had it since I was 8yrs.old. i have always been on a track and cross country team, in the swim team and soft ball team. believe me. that did not make the pain go away. plus you might want to tell your parents to look at menthol liquids that you can put on your back to ease the pain or look into acupuncture. that sometimes will take the pain away for a while. hope you find the help that you need. remember. nobody is ever alone. just because your parents don't understand what's going on. doesn't mean that theirs nobody else to help you.
2006-08-07 10:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by MARISSA RAMIREZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, suicide is NEVER and answer, so banish it from your mind.
I think your parents' reaction, though common, is way too dismissive. I think you should go to the doctor since you already have an appointment. If you really do have scoleosis, there are ways to treat it, and since you'e taking care of it early, there's a lot they can do fo you. Talk to your doctor about your concerns, including your thoughts of suicide. It seems to me (though I am NO expert), that you are probably also dealing with depression. If your doctor is too dismissive, talk to a school counselor.
Good luck, and hang in there! All is NOT lost!
2006-08-07 10:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by pceej 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, you could consider killing yourself, but it's hardly worth it. Yeah sure, your parents are not perfect, but who is, right? You? There you go, your parents are not perfect, so why are you being so down on yourself that you are not perfect. Move forward looking ahead, never dwell on yesterday unless it's to recall the lessons you have learned. Go get your back looked at and communicate with the people around you better in the future. I've survived quite well and happy doing that for 43 years. I'm sure you can do the same.
2006-08-07 10:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man....sometimes parents can be such idiots!!! And I'm a parent! Here you are, trying not to bother people with your pain and they react like that...sorry....Sometimes parents feel as though they can't really help what is happening to their children and in their own frustration, tend to take it out on the person who doesn't deserve to be treated this way-YOU! God forbid, DON"T commit suicide! Try these numbers and talk to someone NOW:
1-800-SUICIDE
1-800-784-2433
National Hopeline Network
1-800-273-TALK
1-800-273-8255
Good luck!!!
2006-08-07 10:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by sweet ivy lyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't you have a school counselor you can talk to? or a teacher you feel comfortable talking to? there must be somebody,hun.suicide just simply is NOT an option. if your thinking about suicide then you definately need to find someone to talk to about how your feeling.IMMEDIATELY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-07 10:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear what your going through, but where is your family.do you have friends to talk too.maybe talk to a preacher or go to church.wish you the best good luck.
2006-08-07 10:39:59 · answer #8 · answered by Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋