i lived with my dads girlfriend but all she did was keep me and my sister in our room we never went out to meet freinds now im away from there i have become antisocial i dont want to go and see my friends or go into town or anything HELP!!!!
2006-08-07 03:26:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
seems unrealistic but .. well
talk to your father
2006-08-07 03:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by Roland 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No honey you're not anti social you've been held back by some ignorant woman who was a low life for imprisoning you and your sister.
All you need to do is rebuild your self-esteem which seems to have been flattened. You need to take small steps getting out the front door can seem like a major hurdle.
One of my girlfriends put plant pots outside her house and had to go out every two days to water them, this in turn made it easier for her to deal with going outside, then she would go into town once a month and now it's hard tracking her down she's got such a wild social life.
Once step at a time and don't beat yourself up if you don't do want you aimed to do that day, take small achievable, realistic steps and soon you'll be out and very sociable.
God bless you...x
2006-08-07 10:47:47 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetcakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being social is partly learned behaviour so is being antisocial. You need top start building up your confidence by joining a group that does something interesting to you. Maybe you'd like voluntary work, hiking or whatever. You obviously know that you should be more social so thats half the battle. aybe someone will go with you until you find the confidence. Every long journney starts with one small step.
2006-08-07 12:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by xbkw46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i dont believe you've become antisocial you just got used to the pattern of life but you will get the routine back just try and get in touch with a few friends you know who have very good sense of humours and you will drift back gradually to you usual life
2006-08-07 10:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the good news seems to be you still have friends, so you will have to motivate yourself to go and see them, just for a short whlie to begin with, maybe meet for a coffee somewhere or something, the short answer is my dear, you will have to help yourself here, no-one is going to come round and drag you out, you are going to have to just do it, the person who kept you confined is a sick person, dont let her wrong actions spoil your life, its not you, its her, you were an innocent victim in all this, however, you now have to deal with the aftermath, start by bieng nice to yourself, go for a little walk every day, say hello to people, then call your friends, see what happens, but always remember you did nothing wrong.
2006-08-08 20:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by magpyre 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sort of feel the same, as i was never really allowed out, not as if i were locked up but my mum most of the time said no to me going out. So now i'm older and have that freedom i tend to get nervous when i go out, i used to say i couldn't come out sometimes. The only way to deal with it is to go out. Your normal like everyone else! Just live the life you want to ;-)
2006-08-07 10:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the way that you have been socialised, you need some help so that you can learn hoe to interact with your friends and other people that you may meet on your road in life. This is a good starting point so... Bravo!!
2006-08-07 10:51:24 · answer #7 · answered by Lb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u sound a bit depressed. go to ur doctors & get urself checked out.....ur past with ur dads girlfriend is obviously still affecting you aswell so maybe some councilling could help x
(i had similar problems when i was younger with my mum & that has left me depressed & anti-social too) but hey its not too bad u are only young & im sure u will be fine just stay positive xx
2006-08-07 10:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by devine_gem22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
decide if you want to be out, or with others. if you just want to go out, walk to the store for chocolate, go swimming, try to run as far as you possibly can, try and think of a place uve ever liked, and go their. if you want your friends back, ppl like listening to others, phone them, tell them you need friendship, and that your depressed.. rent a movie, start a blog, and email it to ure friends.
2006-08-08 04:39:28 · answer #9 · answered by yeah well 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i take it yur a kid...like me!well im 13 butthat still counts. tell her yu a hav a life and this isn't it. and tell yur dad that shes doin this 2 ya. u need 2 be social...i no i am!
2006-08-07 10:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by candyluvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wrote a SONG called tearing apart about a guy who was to scareed to meet the person he loved the most. Please listen and hope you feel better soon. Listen to it, It moved me writing it
http://www.channel4.com/apps26/userpages/UserPage/bands/viewUserPage?resourceId=329702Lsl
Peace and good thoughts to all to find it
2006-08-07 10:34:55 · answer #11 · answered by Super_Dave_the_Forth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋