what i mean is if your spouse travelled out of town and u sleep with someone else, do u think it will be a good idea to report yourself before some neighbour help u do it or is it better to keep quite and denyif confronted
2006-08-07 03:17:20 · 12 answers · asked by ijlafia2006 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
dont tell cause you might not like the consequences
2006-08-07 03:21:52 · answer #1 · answered by Emiliana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cheated on my wife about 12 years ago .I cheated only the once. Yeaterday was my 23rd wedding anniversary.
After I cheated in1994 I was very unhappy about what I had done. For a few months after. I tried to forget what I had done.,but I soon realized that I had made a big mistake and that One day I was going to end up telling my wife. I really do not know upto this day why I cheated. I was a bit drunk that night when it happened.
After a few months I could not even look my wife in the eyes and then one day I finally told her what I had done.
She did not say much at that time because she was so shocked.
But then she started to become angry and depressed.
To cut a long story short, It took a lot of heartache and pain for the both of us to come through. Sometime ago she went to the solicitors and started divorce proceedings.She has been depressed for the 12 years. She has undergone counselling.and has been on medication.We both suffered a lot for almost 10 years
But at last we seemed to have turned the corner.Things are looking up at the moment.and I am hopeful that we will pull through. Our bond is very strong.
So I do not know if it is agood idea for everyone to tell their spouse. But even after everything I would have still told my wife.
2006-08-07 05:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your partner cheated on you, would you rather she told you, or would you rather someone else tell you? Put yourself in her position.
Defo think it's better coming from you.
That's if you really feel the need to tell her though. The liklihood is that ultimately it will end your relationship. If you think you can get away with it, that's probably the best option, but DON'T DO IT AGAIN!
2006-08-07 03:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by Wafflebox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends why you want to tell her. is it because you are genuinely sorry, or are you hoping to assuage your own guilt.
If this is a one off mistake I would keep quiet as long as there is no danger of her finding out. Why hurt her unnecessarily?
My husband had a one night stand, I forgave him that, what I found hard to forgive was that he told me to make himself feel better. I would never have found out. I think ultimately that caused a lot of later problems.
2006-08-07 03:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Ellie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. If he loves you then he will forgive you, but give him time to decide after you tell him. All you can do is keep trying to reassure him that you love him. Is there a reason you cheated on him? Is your love life dying? Talk to him, and tell him what you want to differently.
2006-08-07 03:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by gr_bateman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most religious people or straight ones would say that you should be honest , in fact all religions tell you to be one ........but think about it pratically do you really think that your husband would take this lying low 9 out of 10 times he might blow the roof .......or worse still even if he forgives you he might still harbour some ill feeling against you ................be smart girl dont tell him......"something not known doesnt exist" or else you might repent it
2006-08-07 03:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Success & Money 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES TRUTH HAS TO BE THE FOUNDATION OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP
if you hide from your partner, one day they may find out. they will lose trust not only in you, but the entire concept of love and relationships
if you have cheated on her / him, tell your partner the truth and ask for forgivenes.... if you're lucky you may get another chance.... !
2006-08-07 03:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell the truth there can be no relationship without honesty and trust. u hav already compromised on the trust so be honest if u are sincere about saving the relationship.
2006-08-07 03:23:01 · answer #8 · answered by titania 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, it will come out in the end, it always does. You cant think that much of then if your cheating anyway. make up your mind.....
2006-08-07 03:22:48 · answer #9 · answered by Brittop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you're as guilty as hell, do not say anything....not one single word
2006-08-07 03:26:51 · answer #10 · answered by Lb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋