At first he seemed proud of the fact that I am doing something that i have always dreamed of but he seems to be jealous and very unsupportive now he doesnt even help me with thing in the salon anymore. I dont understand it, its like he wants me to fail in my venture. What do I do????
2006-08-07 03:14:51 · 8 answers · asked by bigsexyhair 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, congrats on being a successful business woman!!
Secondly, when you first started this business, he probably thought "Oh, how cute. She's playing beauty shop". Now that it's a success, he knows that you're serious about this and probably feels threatened.
He might just be afraid that you're going to start making more money than him (if you don't already). The male ego is a very (useless) and delicate thing. If you are making more money, it's probably making him feel like less of a "man". He know that you no longer "need" him to take care of you financially and he's probably a little scared.
Just talk to him and let him know how you feel. Hopefully, he'll be man enough to come around and realize that he should be happy for you.
Regardless of the outcome of the conversation, you should do your thing. There's nothing wrong with doing something positive for yourself, so don't let him make you feel negative about it....
Best of luck! I wish you the best in business and your marriage.
2006-08-07 03:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by Sara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ususally when a man starts acting like this it means that you are not paying enough attention to him. He sees the salon being the most important thing in your life, not him. Maybe you should just spend some more time with him alone and not talk about the salon at all. Try to limit your conversations about the salon with him. He might just be tired of hearing about it. Are there things that you use to do for him that you stopped (you might not have realized it being so busy)? Good luck, I am sure that if you do this stuff for a little while it will wear off and he will become interested in the salon again. It is just going to take your patience and time. Good luck!
2006-08-07 03:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that you are spending a lot of time on your business and he is feeling a little left out of your life. If you spent a lot of time with him before and now, I assume you spend a great deal of time at your salon, because it takes a lot of time to start up your own business, he is probably just wanting more time with you. Just reassure him that although you are very busy getting your business up and running he is still the most important thing in your life. Try surprising him with a romantic dinner for just the two of you and make it the rule that you guys will not talk about work. Just focus on each other for a little while. You may be surprised how that will make things change.
2006-08-07 03:26:34 · answer #3 · answered by lilcountrygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You keep doing what your doing. Thanks for having the ambition to follow your dreams and if anyone out there don't want you to follow your dreams, I say leave them behind so your blessings don't get blocked by spending precious time on interferences.
How can you be jealous of the success your wife is bringing to the table by opening her own hair salon and all she would expect and want is the full support of her husband and he should be giving it .
Now if for whatever reason he doesn't want to , I suggest you channel your energy in your business with the hope he will come around and if he don't, I say never give up your dreams for the nightmare thinking of others. Good luck!
2006-08-07 03:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a male I think I can see why? He Jealous yes, he did support you to make the salon dream you have. Seem that you are forgetting your husband. Help him to make his dream too. If you do that He knows that you doing for him too. If not then you doing it for yourself. Don't get me wrong, Sit down and tell him what was wrong? He will tell you what was wrong and you asked him what you want me to do? He will tell you what he had in his mind to make the dreams he wanted to do. Support him.
You didn't do on your own to make the dream come true. Your husband did support you and work very hard to do for you becasue he truly love you so much. He want you to do the same thing. I bet that my answer.
If I was right then My 10 points right. and If you didn't sit down with him and not listen to him. How would you know?
2006-08-07 04:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey all men get like that. God forbid we stand on our own two feet. If we make our own money and use our own time... they won't have the right to dictate what when how and why we do everything. Besides if you got your own thing going he might actually have to make his own food or wash a pair of jeans. Don't worry girl. Keep on going. Don't you dare let a man take away your independence. I gave up mine to raise my step son and now I have one of my own. I am constantly at home and he loves it. I love my kids but I wish I would have done my thing.
2006-08-07 03:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by cabinfeverjen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on reaching your dream. When my husband helped me achieve my dream, my first response was to do all I could to help my husband achieve "his".
You need to make sure your husband knows how much you appreciate his hard work and sacrifice to help you make your dreams come true. In addition, you need to make sure you are treating him like your husband and not a "servant" in the salon.
Lastly, now that you are where you always have dreamed of being, you need to help your husband realize his dreams.
Ask your husband what he needs from YOU.
2006-08-07 03:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by pamspraises 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is living your dream, then he needs to accept it and be proud of you reacing that goal that you have set for your self. good luck .
2006-08-07 03:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋